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Paula99 - 19 Dec, 2024 - 05:31AM

Part 2…

The other side of this is ….once you use your home as your base to meet then home will never be the same anymore …this is the sacred place you have allowed your lover to enter …so your affair isn’t neutral.
If and when your affair ends then you still have the ‘connection’ to your home which is quite difficult for some …this is where the idea of ‘getting too attached’ may have some significance…

I am not single but it’s not good to use the ‘gets too attached’ excuse for people that are not in a relationship to begin with …there are plenty of marrieds that the above reference applies..🤔

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Paula99 - 18 Dec, 2024 - 10:47PM

This subject makes me laugh at times ….if you read the posts …it’s always the ‘single person’ that gets ‘too attached’…is the OP in the affair always so controlled?
I do think some use this excuse as a get out clause ..

If one half of your relationship is single then it’s much easier to have a successful affair … you have a ready made hotel room/somewhere to play house/relax …
Of course there are still risks involved as it is with marrieds but we all like a ‘calculated risk ‘ 😉

Azazal24 - 18 Dec, 2024 - 08:58PM

My marriage finished after she had the second affair. I have always been loyal, and hated the concept.

After being divorced for three years I'm more knowledgeable and experienced. I still dont understand it to be honest. I'm a loyal dog, that understands how much we miss out on sexual experiences as a couple. But know with the right person you can actually be whatever you want, experience whatever you want.... just by being able to be open.

hopefully not too controversial or judging...

ExoticOrchid - 14 Dec, 2024 - 11:12PM

Never put all your eggs in one basket!!!

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Paula99 - 14 Dec, 2024 - 09:18AM

It does depend on the person involved and we have established that not all ‘single ‘ people are needy ….I can see in the case of JustMeE4E …the OP got a little attached…to be fair to her she had her own place and you were going there every week for 3 years and she had built a calendar/life around your visits so it is easy to get reliant on those times …3 years isn’t to be sniffed at if you think that you won’t get a little attached in that time your kidding yourself….It was more difficult for her to ‘change ‘ her lifestyle than you but like any relationship it is a ‘loss’ and mental health issues arise..
IE relationships do have a ‘shelf life ‘ and it’s a good thing in the long run …😁

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Justme4uEssex - 13 Dec, 2024 - 09:26PM

People love to judge, I've had 2 affairs with single women it makes it so much easier to meet plus we could meet at hers so once or twice a week for 3 years was very achievable! Unfortunately she got too attached so we had to go our separate ways.

Would definitely not discount single women if they are looking for the same

Crystal Ball - 10 Dec, 2024 - 09:30PM

It's unfortunate, but everyone gets judged on IE. It's a bit of a murky place, full of suspicious minds.

Sandokan1900 - 09 Dec, 2024 - 04:57PM

People always judjing but personally i do not, Everyone is free

Clickable Connection - 06 Dec, 2024 - 08:18AM

Scrappy / Excotic - totally agree with both of you. Point I was trying to make (badly) was there are lots of assumptions and preconceived ideas about motives if single folks.

I think you gotta take each on their own merits , rather than painting everyone with the same brush

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1725148 - 05 Dec, 2024 - 10:26AM

Nothing twisted @CC..everything is as it should be.
The only thing I think when seeing a single profile, is more time and freedom.

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