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Classycougar - 17 Jun, 2020 - 05:20PM

@comfortwhite
NO, no, no the Only L allowed in an affair IMHO is not LOVE .. but LUST !!!!
If no lust it’s not worth the risk!!

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1380470 - 17 Jun, 2020 - 05:11PM

EmilyW - 17 Jun, 2020 - 02:29PM

Your words resonate with me. I am in a marriage with no intimacy for 14years. It’s difficult and heartbreaking at times but we each have our reasons for doing this and none of us are in a position to judge anyone. I initially thought it was the physically intimacy I missed, but I discovered it’s being made to feel attractive, wanted etc that I needed. So after 25 years of marriage, I called it a day. Epic fail on my timing, we went into lockdown the following day! Thank god for gin and my sense of humour! X

Q. Dating tips: just be true to yourself. You only get out what you put in. [pun not intended]

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1386174 - 17 Jun, 2020 - 04:54PM

So here's a question to challenge a conscience...
If a young (ish 😁) woman ends up having to be a full time carer for the love of her life which excludes her physical needs and finds a discreet solution does that make her bad or a 'cheat'?
As an example 'end of life care' could be over many years...
Bit off topic but I'll chuck it in....

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phillyd - 17 Jun, 2020 - 04:38PM

@cornforthwhite
Just because we are 'cheating doesn't mean we can't be gentlemen. I always try to be one. The same way that there are ladies on here.

1352608 - 17 Jun, 2020 - 04:21PM

Cornforthwhite
I agree you have to have an agreement between you and what works I think. Falling in love for women is not always a problem as long as you set parameters.
Mainly that you wont leave your current partners

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1389672 - 17 Jun, 2020 - 04:07PM

Louisav123 - Close, interior designer... (Farrow & Ball)

Personally I think it's unfair to want or expect someone who's cheating with me to fall too much in love, it will only lead to pain I'm sure. Being in love means being able to let go.

Though everyone is different and I respect that too.

1352608 - 17 Jun, 2020 - 03:52PM

Golly 1k
I have probably not explained the situation that well.
It's just his way I'm not a battered wife he just doesn't do intimacy like holding hands kissing etc and no romance at all.
I was justing commenting before I want the romance and attention and not just sex

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1352608 - 17 Jun, 2020 - 03:43PM

Cornforhwhite@

Just wondering if you are a painter and decorating as name reminds me of company who make paint lol
I admire your honesty I have read your profile you are needing more of sex so.you are looking for NSA
Just be careful and make sure your I.E. understands this.
Theres lots of different people on here who have different needs and expectations.
I think you are nice guy actually down to earth and honest. I wish you luck in the future

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Golly.1k - 17 Jun, 2020 - 03:39PM

Louisav123 - 17 Jun, 2020 - 03:16PM

Agree with EmilyW, doesn't sound good, if it is not what you want tell him to stop.

I have found it is always the best when you have feelings for your partner, just mechanical physical action is pretty pointless

1352608 - 17 Jun, 2020 - 03:32PM

Emily W
Thanks for the advice I wish you luck xx