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Mews0001 - 17 Jun, 2020 - 02:23PM

Just an observation about some of the women on this site. I can only speak from a man's perspective, obviously! I may be shot down in flames for speaking out, but hey, that's my risk.
Hopefully I'll not receive messages form the women who only want to chat and will receive them from those that know why they are here and know what they want.

There seems to be a fairly equal balance of the sexes which is very unusual compared to other sites (Ashley Maddison hold your hand up!)

Why then, do soooooo many women have such great expectations of being wooed, of the men having to put all the effort in?

Surely we all know why we are here and if we don't then go find a pen pal!

IMHO this site is primarily about wanting a new sexual partner, for whatever reason. Then, it is about finding a connection with someone (sex with a person you are connected to is SO much better).
I guess that most of us here want just one new person with that special connection I have just mentioned.
Out of characters. Anothe

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All things and wonderful - 17 Jun, 2020 - 02:00PM

@cornforthwhite
I disagree with you on this one, looking for something you're not getting from home doesn't make one a twat or not nice or less gentleman, am sure most on here aren't just here for the sake of it, many are due to circumstances they can't change, whether be family ties (children) or emotional or financial implications...
Personally I have had 3 physical contacts with my spouse in the past 7 years... how will I be called a cheater 😄 when I actually haven't been getting any sex from him....

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1389672 - 17 Jun, 2020 - 01:39PM

Nice gent looking for a nice lady? Are you kidding? :-) This is a site for folks who cheat... good luck with that one... if you’re cheating, drop the ‘Gentleman’ lark. Same goes for all the ladies on here who write ‘looking for the ‘perfect gentlemen’...seriously?

If you’re a single guy and you’re looking for a ‘nice lady’ then maybe take up a hobby, look for meet-ups locally, take up Salsa classes etc...

Really not sure why anyone who cheats (including me if it happens) would consider themselves anything other than a lying twat... once you’ve come to terms with that, then maybe you’ll find the right fit. Sorry to be so frank, but truth-say I recon.

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ClassyLady77 - 17 Jun, 2020 - 01:38PM

Just be yourself.. IF there’s chemistry then the flirting will come....

Onlines hard. For us women it’s finding needle in haystack.. just be thankful your not single and on Tinder, that’s even worse.. 😂

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762219 - 17 Jun, 2020 - 12:42PM

I think in many cases this is a no win situation. Some ladies will like what the guys say some will not.

Ladies, you could help. If you like to hear naughty chat then perhaps you should lead it. If like most you prefer more polite conversation, at least to begin with, please tell us in your profile.

I say in mine that I do not like like vulgarity and bad language but that does not stop me from being flirtatious or erotic if the conversation goes that way.

Gents, take your time to get to know the lady that you desire. It takes time to build trust so don't say something crude that will make you fall at the first hurdle

Stay safe.

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Mysterious 3.0 - 17 Jun, 2020 - 11:14AM

Read the profile of the person being approached PROPERLY
Once you have done that you should be able to find something meaningful to refer to in a message....
Put some effort in and it will be worth it, lazy language gets the results deserved...
Just my six pence worth.... 😁

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1389944 - 17 Jun, 2020 - 11:05AM

When I’m polite, I’m told I’m too polite
When I’m a little naughty I’m told there’s no need for that

Help 🤣

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WaitingtobeFound - 17 Jun, 2020 - 10:49AM

Well I would stick to n special lady, get to know her and treat her properly. My ie is lovely to me. I know he is a very shy man as he has admitted it but his flirting skills have recently, after 7 months come to the fore.

Be yourself. If you can't be that you are no one!

evalitor - 17 Jun, 2020 - 10:46AM

I am the same as it seems most people in this conversation. Im terrible at flirting, not used to the online thing and am only seeking one person to have fun with not to sleep around.

Somebody did say about being honest but I have found that being too honest seems to put people off as well. Im the kind of person that states things as they are which seems to put a lot of people off.

I wont compromise who I am to suit a site but there must be people here that appreciate complete openness and honesty.

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1384231 - 17 Jun, 2020 - 10:31AM

20 years ago, chatting up a girl in a nightclub seemed to come natural. A bit different now, just come here to read the comments and maybe learn a few things from you lovely lovely people. Will always keep it honest then take it from there!!
As paddy says “turn one girl off, and take one girl out”