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justtheguynextdoor - 06 Mar, 2025 - 10:00PM

I think the key to any good long term relationship is clear open communication - I guess an IE is no different!

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Queenbolt666 - 06 Mar, 2025 - 03:32PM

Didn't meet my last affair partner on here but the affair lasted 7 years.
There was a clear line and it was bedroom only, so the lines don't become blurred which I thinks important when the affair goes on for so long.

We built a really good friendship, there was an attraction on both parts, and also the strongest sexual connection i have ever had (we met randomly) so think its so important you want to rip your IE clothes off.

I respected his home life and he respected mine e.g. no contact when we are at home. He has kids and I very much respect that his family and time with his kids come first. Also, neither of us have told a soul which I think is so important if you want to keep your marriages.

Both of us were always willing to compromise, adjust plans and there was a mutual effort on both parts
No drama, no feelings, just two friends who both want the same outcome.

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Man_Alive_2025 - 06 Mar, 2025 - 02:22PM

If you both want it to last it will! Acknowledge that the affair exists as a parallel relationship and give yourselves permission to accept any feelings you have for each other with the understanding that it’s all happening in a bubble that doesn’t have any impact on the setup at home. Nurture it at the start by developing good and honest communication, try to get a message to each other everyday and use the space inbetween meets to build anticipation

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marklondonengland - 06 Mar, 2025 - 12:40PM

I first met an IE from this site 18 years ago. She is still in touch with me today. Life changes and maybe sometimes you stay 'just friends' because relationships have changed, but if you target friednship first then it is possible to stay connected - do you actually like each other? Plus who knows, if you are still in touch and feeling naughty then everything else can still happen occasionally!

Ms Cashmere - 06 Mar, 2025 - 12:26PM

Beyond the obvious such as respect, attraction and compatibility, the ability and presence of mind to compartmentalise is a must.

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Purple dreamer - 05 Mar, 2025 - 09:49AM

Let me know when you find it

Marlen - 06 May, 2024 - 04:28PM

I'll let you know, if I ever find out.
There are all the usual platitudes, but I guess it's contingent on the reasons for the IE in the 1st place and what both parties bring to the table. It's as complicated and messy as marriage in some respects.
Not everyone wants a long lasting IE, anyway. For every person that wants a Tracey/Hepburn affair to the other extreme of find, fuck and forget, you have unlimited combinations in between.

Paula99 - 04 May, 2024 - 12:11PM

Exotic Orchid …

The perfect answer 👍

ExoticOrchid - 04 May, 2024 - 09:11AM

Friendship and genuinely *like* each other as people.

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Peaches1 - 03 May, 2024 - 11:11PM

Be honest, reliable and discreet. Cant say anything more as these are the main things. Get caught and its game over for both or your life.