Comments (213)

Andrea Andrew - 23 Nov, 2023 - 09:41PM

Another cardinal rule….

Being chilled..!

 1 member likes this comment.

RaRaRusputin - 23 Nov, 2023 - 08:59PM

Cardinal rule/rules??

Do we not have enough of these in our 'legal' relationship??

Surely the 'rules' for an affair - if any, are as individual as the individuals engaged in the affair and are as equally diverse??

Surely if we stopped treating our affairs as we expect our relationships to work, our affairs will be more rewarding??
Should we not take our affairs as the opportunity to experience what we can't replicate at home??
If so, then 'we' need to take action to do things differently and find the perfect partner in crime with which to make that change.

Rules?? They're well and truly out the window or at best, where they belong; with our husbands/wives et-al.....

 3 members like this comment.

Son Of Loki - 23 Nov, 2023 - 05:37PM

Cardinal rule?
Shaven haven, clean bottom

 1 member likes this comment.

FluffyClouds - 23 Nov, 2023 - 03:11PM

MarkLondonEngland -

Totally agree. Consistency. Do what you say you will do. Actions always speak louder than words. And keep the flow going on communication within what was agreed.

Awordsmith - 23 Nov, 2023 - 03:05PM

Butterflies at the prospect of coming together for moments of indulgence/ pleasure.
And respect for privacy/ personal space in order to lead our conventional lives when we’re apart.

Fread! - 23 Nov, 2023 - 02:53PM

Discretion and respect for the other person‘s circumstances are paramount for success. The rest is what two consenting adults want it to be - like any other relationship.

Enigma.. - 23 Nov, 2023 - 08:36AM

Definitely good communication.
Trust, honesty, discretion, good communication, reliability, availability and being honest about what you wish from the affair.
Above all enjoy each other’s company wither it’s for a date or meet.
Boundaries are also best discussed sooner rather than later too to avoid any misunderstandings.

 3 members like this comment.

marklondonengland - 23 Nov, 2023 - 07:39AM

Communication is most important because it creates a pathway between lovers - you can ensure that you both understand each other. Consistency leads on from communication - do what you say you will do. if you arrange to meet, then be there. If you promise to bring wine, then bring wine. If you agree to keep your lives seperate at weekends then don't start chasing on WhatsApp on a Saturday night asking 'why aren't you texting me?' If you agree it is only ever going to be FWB then don't go and buy an engagement ring... setting expectations and being consistent all flow from communicating well.

 4 members like this comment.

PonderingOne - 22 Nov, 2023 - 11:26PM

Treat others as you expect to be treated yourself.

 1 member likes this comment.

boav91 - 22 Nov, 2023 - 10:21PM

So many people have said it

Dont get caught

But I would say plan for the worst and then when that does not happen enjoy the rest

 2 members like this comment.