The Green Eyed Monster
What happens when the cosy twosome becomes an annoying threesome with the appearance of the GEM? How does the GEM affect your IE relationship and more importantly, how do you deal with it?
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1117169 - 05 Sep, 2020 - 03:12PM
@Premiumbond
Yes that's it in a nutshell.
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Premiumbond - 04 Sep, 2020 - 07:16PM:
I think Devon Pixie is 100% right.
If I talk to someone, I don't disappear suddenly. I end it rather than ghosting him. And I don't just block people like some proudly do it in here!
But people are different... some men has ghosted me after a while and I don't take it personal. If they found someone better than me, good for them!
But if they think that they should try 'all' women here just because they pay for their subscription, they're not my type anyway. I'm not interested in players at all.
I should say that afew men don't take 'No' as an answer either! People are different...
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Best Route - 05 Sep, 2020 - 07:04AM
What sort of GEM are you all talking about? Towards a spouse?! it's a big No-No.
Towards other potential IE?! Was the person honest, and told you it couldn't be an exclusive affair, I don't see why the GEM.
People can feel jealous it's only human nature. Like what I think @ExoticOrchid said. Just try not to succumb to it.
But it's not a "Monster" lol
GEM goes hand in hand with lack of honesty, lack of trust, manipulation, with people being chancers.
I don't think is right if people pull up the GEM card, if ie: they are still playing the field, but claiming to be exclusive to one IE (that obviously isn't stupid), etc...
But if an IE is honest, and I am brutally it, and someone still is jealous... I would let them go.
I like what @Autumn Willow said
"I don’t do GEM
And give no one cause to experience GEM"
I don't do jealous, and I try not to give cause to experience jealous!
Stay safe
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Premiumbond - 04 Sep, 2020 - 09:19PM
What I would prefer is a simple I’m not interested or you’ve offended me rather than nothing!!!
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1399985 - 04 Sep, 2020 - 08:57PM
@Premiumbond sometimes men do that too, but it's impossible to answer your question, as I'm sure you're aware all of us ladies are different so nobody will be able to speak on behalf of us all, but there are lots of reasons why a woman may suddenly disappear.
Maybe she is talking to a few different gents and then meets one of them in person, really likes him, so goes quiet on the rest.
Maybe she disappears because she thinks her husband is suspicious.
Maybe unknowingly you said something to offend her.
There are a million possible reasons but not a single one of the ladies I know who use this site is here to "play" men for their own amusement because it's free for women. In fact, that perception could be a part of the problem, I've spoken to a few men on here who come across as though they feel they are entitled to conversation, like women owe it to them because they pay and we don't, it is a very unattractive attitude. I'm not saying that applies to you of course, but it's something to ponder.
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1386735 - 04 Sep, 2020 - 07:21PM
DelishAss
Your comment comes across as if you think I’m being dumb...however if you want to get to the nitty gritty you can carry a particular STD without any symptoms, so even if you had a test every month but had no signs or symptoms the results Would come back as negative.
You may have a MBA but I would suggest you educate yourself a bit more
Premiumbond - 04 Sep, 2020 - 07:16PM
Why is it that you chat to ladies on here and then they just disappear when you get to the possible meeting stage ?
No reasons given why ... just gone !!!
Is it because it’s free for them and they can just play a bloke and don’t care ? .... I’d be interested to hear women’s point of view ????
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Mitzi999 - 04 Sep, 2020 - 11:57AM
You chose a married man, you have no right to be jealous, and married men have no right to be jealous of the women they have picked!
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Fiib1301 - 04 Sep, 2020 - 09:43AM
If you get jealous you shouldn’t be seeing a married man he won’t choose you
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1387952 - 04 Sep, 2020 - 09:12AM
Honey-pot80 - 02 Sep, 2020 - 04:17PM
"But no place for GEM on here as we all know what we’re signing up for, casual and not commitment. xx😈💕"
I agree, up to a certain point.
We ARE all here for casual, in the sense that we're not looking for a second marriage (or marriage at all, in the case of singletons out there)... But there still needs to be a certain level of commitment
Is that what you mean? Or are you actually meaning you're after casual - easy come easy go? (no pun intended - haha)
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