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1439095 - 22 Feb, 2021 - 05:30PM

I would prefer that someone be honest with me. Yes it may be slightly shallow to focus on looks but if you need physical attraction then honesty should be the best policy in my opinion. At least that way the person knows

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1438576 - 20 Feb, 2021 - 09:05PM

I thought this was an interesting thread. My experience surprised me. I thought I needed instant physical attraction. I always had in the past. I met somebody on here and we got on really well. I wasn't immediately attracted to her, but over time I fell for her...fell for her hard. I suppose my point is, sometimes it's worth getting to know somebody and seeing if you click.

M, Xx

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gemini2310 - 19 Feb, 2021 - 11:35PM

Just be honest everyone does not find everyone attractive just be polite and say sorry your not what I am looking for.Females also get rejected it's just part of IE dont take it personal.Most are chatting to loads anyway so they wont be to disappoint so dont worry.

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Jasmine90 - 19 Feb, 2021 - 11:15PM

I just be straight up they appreciate it more than being ghosted :) and I’d prefer if people were the same back so I know where I stand.

ExoticOrchid - 19 Feb, 2021 - 03:57PM

Mary Contrary - 19 Feb, 2021 - 02:46PM

That's good ... there are one or two who have stayed in touch but 99% don't want to ... as for staying friends with ex-IEs, I don't have a problem with it but they seem to ... could be the wounded ego thing!

1434661 - 19 Feb, 2021 - 02:46PM

ExoticOrchid

I find that many stay as friends and we chat and compare experiences. I stay friends with my ex IEs too

ExoticOrchid - 19 Feb, 2021 - 01:05PM

Up_periscope - 12:43PM

In my personal experience, as soon as they realise there are no "benefits" to be had, the men are not interested in just being "friends" even though I'd have been happy to stay in touch as I did like them as people.

Up_Periscope - 19 Feb, 2021 - 12:43PM

Accepting and doling out rejection are skills we all need to learn on a site like this (and in life, generally). A reply is in order if the connection was solicited or entered into. I would simply say something along the lines of "Although I have enjoyed our interaction, I must be honest and say that I don't feel that necessary spark of attraction. But that is subjective, and I'm sure your persistence will pay off. I wish you the best of luck." If you're feeling kind, you can personalise it with an addition: "I laughed at the story about your cat" or "good luck to both you and your mum", etc. And if you genuinely enjoyed the connection, why not suggest that perhaps you have each made a new friend unexpectedly whilst searching for lovers? It takes an adult, either way. (I have had wonderful relationships with insanely attractive women I've met online, but inevitably, the majority I approached were looking for something/someone else. It can sting, but I hitched up my big-boy pants and got lucky elsewhere.)

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ExoticOrchid - 19 Feb, 2021 - 11:27AM

Princess0121 - 10:58AM
"Most guys are very grateful for getting a reply"

Agree ... I usually get a thank you back ... a few don't bother to reply at all but I've never had any abusive replies.

ExoticOrchid - 19 Feb, 2021 - 11:18AM

A couple of weeks ago, a 72 year old gentleman (I use the term loosely) sent me a message saying he reckons his age disqualifies him but he wanted to make contact anyway.

As per my usual good manners, I replied to say I agree but thank you anyway and pressed "Send" ... guess what ... he had already blocked me!

What's that all about? 🤷🏻‍♀️