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1434661 - 15 Feb, 2021 - 04:05PM

@Sigmaguy

We don't all want to be treated like ladies 😉

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Sigmaguy - 15 Feb, 2021 - 03:52PM

Exotic Orchid, so women are as stupid as men, just in a different way... we are all insane, we all have unreal expectations and all we want is a damn good shag... It’s not hard to find as long as you can admit your own flaws and not be so damn picky by just going on looks alone.

It’s now as simple as Swipe left... and he’s gone...

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Sigmaguy - 15 Feb, 2021 - 03:48PM

Ms Contrary, I love it when people play Devils advocate...

So yes, in theory a good looking hunk will probably sleep with a woman who he doesn’t find so attractive, but he won’t treat you like a ‘lady’ that’s for sure... 😈 Oh and he probably won’t be relationship material, so as long as you don’t expect too much and are happy to just be a plaything... then happy days. Just don’t then get all bitter and upset when the guy disappears. Same goes the other way too. The guy in that situation is probably going to get mentally abused then dumped for a something better.

1434661 - 15 Feb, 2021 - 03:20PM

Sigmaguy - 15 Feb, 2021 - 03:00PM
"... But I guarantee that a desperate guy with high standards will shag pretty much anything that opens their legs..."

Therefore validating the idea that women who are overweight can continue to strive for the athletic man thus not requiring to maintain 'realistic expectations', yes, because these expectations are realistic... such a paradox.

I agree with your view, I'm just playing devil's advocate to force a discussion :) x

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ExoticOrchid - 15 Feb, 2021 - 03:17PM

@ Sgmaguy

There will always be shallow people of both sexes I'm afraid ... you should read some of the men's profiles ... just as bad with dress size to hair colour stipulated. And then you see their (10 year old pics) ... even worse if one isn't shallow and meet in person!!! 🙄

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Sigmaguy - 15 Feb, 2021 - 03:00PM

Absolutely agree... But I guarantee that a desperate guy with high standards will shag pretty much anything that opens their legs, whereas women with high standards will turn their nose up at a guy because he's bald... Women also seem to use the phrase 'I want to be treated like a 'lady'... I don't think there is an equivalent term for men.

I'm sorry ExoticOrchid, but so many women are passing good men by because of silly defects, when actually good sex starts in the mind, with good communication and laughter. Go on looks alone and you're seriously cutting your chances of finding a match.

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ExoticOrchid - 15 Feb, 2021 - 02:09PM

Sigmaguy - 01:49PM

I take your point but the same could be said for very ordinary men who are looking for supermodels.

Realism is fine but it still doesn't mean one has to settle for those one feels absolutely no attraction to. 🤷🏻‍♀️

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Sigmaguy - 15 Feb, 2021 - 01:49PM

Exotic Orchid - that’s not what I meant.

What I mean is..: if you say you want a guy over 6ft and ignore all the other guys under 6ft then you are seriously reducing your chances of finding someone... be realistic that’s all I’m saying.

So no point being overweight and expecting a toned stud... ain’t happening. Be who you want to attract. And don’t forget, the better you are, the higher your standards, the harder it will get for you.

Just stating facts.

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ExoticOrchid - 15 Feb, 2021 - 01:21PM

Sigmaguy - 15 Feb, 2021 - 09:19AM

"If you are aiming at perfection, then you need to be perfect too, so take a good look at yourself and ask yourself’ am I the person that the good looking (nice) guy/gal will be attracted to."

Just because you are not attracted to someone doesn't mean you are "aiming at perfection" ... !!!

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ExoticOrchid - 15 Feb, 2021 - 01:16PM

"I’m a nice person and I find telling people you’re not my type really offensive so I end up ghosting them which is also bad but how else can I say it?"

I'm sorry but a "nice person" doesn't ghost people ... it's not difficult to say "thank you but you're not what I'm looking for" ... if they then come back with more, then you have every right to block them or even report them if they turn offensive.

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