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Ms Cashmere - 27 Feb, 2025 - 11:17PM

I've learnt that it's so important to go at your own pace. If s/he is right for you, they will understand. If they're not right for you, amicably move on. Worst case scenario, s/he will throw a digital strop and/or ghost...never pleasant and definitely not personal....no matter how personal s/he 'chooses' to get. Some people do not handle patience and/or rejection well and it shows. ...go at your own pace anyway. No is a complete sentence.

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Cheryl Kim - 27 Feb, 2025 - 09:39PM

I think we have to treat everybody as an individual and have the patience to learn about them over time. There will come a time when you crossover from novel / tentative to established / comfortable. That is when it becomes easier.

Chandrian - 27 Feb, 2025 - 06:26PM

I'm a REAL veteran. I've been on IE for around twenty seven minutes...and I can honestly say that I've learned a lot during my time here. When I was much younger man (roughly fifteen minutes ago), I just sent messages left and right but now - in my increasingly mature minutes, I'm a lot more picky and careful about who I approach. Here's to the next hour!

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Ms Cashmere - 27 Feb, 2025 - 12:58PM

Be confident in your skin (mentally and physically) and know what you want, it will become easier. Do not entertain nonsense (subjective) for the sake of someone to chat to. Uphold your standards and be patient. You're not for everyone, everyone is not for you and that's perfectly okay. 👌

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tmn2024 - 27 Feb, 2025 - 11:06AM

I haven't been on here for long so I can't really help. If I'm still here in six months time I'll let you know.....though on the other hand, if I'm still here in six months time then I think the answer will already be clear :))

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Lookingatu - 27 Feb, 2025 - 10:40AM

Hi I'm all new to this so not sure what to expect

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Man_Alive_2025 - 27 Feb, 2025 - 08:56AM

It does get easier because I think over time one gets a better idea of who would make an ideal partner.initially I was flattered by any attention and would try to make all the chats work or think everyone was a potential match and dismiss traits or attitudes that didn’t align with mine. What I’ve learnt is that for me the key to a successful start is that it’s crucial to find someone on your wavelength with similar values and at a similar stage of life. Otherwise it can become a complete ball ache and not in a good way!

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Paula99 - 12 May, 2024 - 02:33PM

Ideas for typing profiles..

Don’t use the profile wizard at all..

Read others profiles and get some ideas

Don’t copy and paste profiles

Dont use generic expressions like ‘rock anyone’s boat’ or ‘Batman by night ‘ WTF that means I don’t know !!!

Keep it short and sweet ..no one wants to read an essay ..

Knowing what you are looking for is good and shows you have standards..

Indicate that you like to take care of your assets but women want you to worship them not your own body..

Read women’s profiles and pick up on specific topics ..this works !!!

You can’t please everyone so don’t try ..

One more thing we are not all looking for a 6 ft tall dark and handsome ….we already married those 😂😂

Good luck 🤞

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Paula99 - 12 May, 2024 - 08:29AM

Mika3121…

Why on earth would you give out your mobile number?
There are apps like Telegram that you can use an ID like on here…

Bonkers 😕

Mika3121 - 12 May, 2024 - 08:17AM

Sorry, I don’t think it does become easier! I’ve been a member for a while and only last week a woman started chatting to me (nothing sordid!), exchanged passwords, SHE then asked to message off site,. I gave her my mobile, she gave me hers and then IMMEDIATELY BLOCKED me with no explanation. The good thing was this was all within a day, so didn't waste too much time and energy!