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1543678 - 24 May, 2023 - 04:18PM

So many different preferences out there. Impossible to say if someone is a 10 for one person they will also be a 10 for another. Ive known females who adore soft caressing, kisses, oral and cuddles and then others who like none of that and many dont even know what they like until they are given it in the best way for them. Its both shallow and naive to rate someones sexual ability in my eyes! Compatability, trust and consideration is everything

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1588157 - 23 May, 2023 - 10:38PM

Quite often the earth doesnt move and the fireworks dont explode on first sexual encounters so rating your partner may be premature and unfair

This is because one or both of you are nervous or dont wamt to scare the bjesus out of the other party in csae you dont get an offer of a return match.

Instead as the trust and communication grow between you the sex often gets better as you progress.

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TheBoredHousewife - 23 May, 2023 - 11:01AM

On a side note, there used to be someone who posted here about his IEs having to be 9s or 10s in looks. Thing is, someone’s 9 or 10/10 might be another person’s 6/10.
We all rate according to different criteria. But I do know what I like, and like BeckyS and DottyG mentioned, it’s not an objective rating but a holistic one. Things have obviously gone well if we want to see each other again!

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ExoticOrchid - 23 May, 2023 - 10:37AM

Sandypops - 08:20PM

Exactly my point ... at least you've read the topic! 👏

ExoticOrchid - 23 May, 2023 - 10:33AM

Errrmmm people really DON'T read the topic, do they?

The OP is talking about people SECRETLY rating a lover (lovers) ... I've heard many talk about a lover being good or bad ... same thing, innit ... not about having an App or publicly announcing it.

There are men and women who rate appearance on a scale of 1 to 10 ... we've all heard it ... even if just as banter ... 🤷🏻‍♀️

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1599959 - 22 May, 2023 - 10:05PM

Sandypops - 22 May, 2023 - 08:20PM

Selfishly and making myself the main character for a second, I'm just glad you didn't take away from that one person's comment that I read the Daily Mail

MostlyNice - 22 May, 2023 - 09:02PM

Who said romance was dead?

Sandypops - 22 May, 2023 - 08:20PM

I love reading the comments on these forums.
My take on this rather strange question is that some people 'secretly' give performance ratings, they don't actually tell the person involved.
Yes that sounds weird but I suppose we all think ... how good was the sex/sexual chemistry? Do we want to repeat it? That's the 'did we connect' sexually bit, I think. And no, I don't give a rating, that's weird and rude BUT the sexual connection may or may not be there. A proper connection requires each to be comfortable with each other enough to say what they like and don't like and how they like it. And of course reading each others body language, which often means we don't actually need to communicate with words. Many of you are much more experienced with having an affair than I am, but personally, I'm just going with the flow and enjoying myself. I'd rather have a great mental connection with someone than just great sex and no real mental connection. A good mental connection = good sex for me.

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PonderingOne - 22 May, 2023 - 07:54PM

No although, if asked, would be honest (!) about what was enjoyed and what wasn’t. Rather than performance rating. If having to think about it then I suggest you are just not compatible.

dirkdiggler96 - 22 May, 2023 - 02:51PM

@Paula, quite happy with it to be honest. I agree, it is an absurd question but when the opportunity presents itself, then boast.

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