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Funguy77 - 01 Apr, 2025 - 12:18PM

Is it just me who’s not understanding what “Connection” means. Am I thinking about it in the wrong context or just simply over thinking it . When I read I’m looking for a deep or deeper connection this makes me think there looking for a replacement or a to fall in love.

Have I been wrong am I throwing up walls and being graded for no reason or am I just the typical man who just doesn’t get it ?

Purple dreamer - 01 Apr, 2025 - 07:24AM

Totally get what you are saying connection is more than how someone looks

LadyDe - 31 Mar, 2025 - 12:23PM

@Paula 99

It’s a shame we can’t contact the girls on the group or I would share with you 😢

Here we go 693 - 31 Mar, 2025 - 08:49AM

LadyDe I hear you loud and clear. My last IE was an amazing experience. It leaves me with exactly the same dilemma, will I find it or not.
I'm back here so I guess I believe there is even though there seems to be slim pickings... Hope remains...

KerryElizabeth - 31 Mar, 2025 - 07:28AM

For me, the connection can start at the first message, if it piques my interest. This can then build over time with further messages, especially with shared interests and easy flowing conversation.
It's happened at different rates when it has happened with various guys I've chatted to, and it's a feeling of being comfortable with someone and being able to share more than surface details.
I prefer to build this connection ideally before swapping passwords, so a guy gets to know me rather than just judging on my looks alone.
If the online connection is really good, it makes me more likely to meet in person. A personal connection can then evolve from meeting face to face, although it doesn't always.

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Paula99 - 30 Mar, 2025 - 08:00PM

LadyDe …

Why did it end …if you don’t mind me asking ?

As far as do you get back on the horse …you will know in your own time .

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LadyDe - 30 Mar, 2025 - 06:27PM

I had the perfect connection for me … my last IE had it down to point with comms and excitement/anticipation between meets. Sex was perfect and his refractory period for a man in his 60s was insane .. the question is .. will I ever get it again ? Or I need to take each person as an individual… but there lies the problem 😔

I’m trying but maybe I’m too soon out the stalls ..

IE forum do I jump back on the horse (excuse the pun) or take time ?

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budgie817 - 30 Mar, 2025 - 05:31PM

A Connection is when you feel totally comfortable with someone, you have a very good idea of who they are and what they are about and they fit in with you.

One will feel that there is a good reason to continue to be around them in whatever capacity going forwards, where that will lead there is no way of knowing.

A Connection is definitely not just starting a conversation but something that builds over time but the time lapsed maybe different for different people and just because for one there is a feeling of connection it doesn't always mean the other person will feel the same.

Shouldn't confuse different types of connections either friendship, lovers, a relationship, or just someone you know are all connections of varying degrees.

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Funguy77 - 30 Mar, 2025 - 03:07PM

Lots to ponder there . And a very good question do I know what great sex is and I think from my point of view I’ll need to be honest and say ..no .

I can honestly say I have lay there afterwards and went omg or wow for myself. Sex for men and sex for women I have come to believe mean totally different things I was educated by a wonderful woman who taught me a valuable lesson.

But I do believe I get the job done lol but perhaps I can be a little guarded at times x

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Here we go 693 - 30 Mar, 2025 - 02:41PM

Trust me, it exists. It may not be there for everyone you encounter, but when you find it, you'll know.

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