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Jonnydieppe - 15 Jul, 2024 - 07:11PM

How!! I’ve yet to get anyone to get past my first few messages 😂

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Funguy77 - 15 Jul, 2024 - 05:52PM

@ Hey boys ;-) - 15 Jul, 2024 - 04:34PM

Think I would slap someone who said I didn’t realise how chubby you were…. Can’t beat a wee chubby lol

1494077 - 15 Jul, 2024 - 05:14PM

The voice and video note idea that @The_Fit_Gent suggested is a good one. Personally, I never meet without first having done these. Not fool proof, but it has saved me a lot of time and pointless meets. A man I ended up having a beautiful long term affair with took me on a virtual holiday with him when we first started chatting. It is about the sex, yet for the discerning individual, sex isn’t everything, especially if a longer term IE is what you are looking for.

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Hey boys ;-) - 15 Jul, 2024 - 04:34PM

I know exactly how you feel. It would be nice just to have an honest discussion afterwards with someone. I would much rather be told they didn't realise how chubby I was (if that's the case) and wernt feeling it than sat wondering WTF because they ghosted.

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1686467 - 15 Jul, 2024 - 04:27PM

Although relatively new here compared to some the approach I have always intended to take, so as to mitigate the risk of these situations occurring, is to first send my connections an intro video of myself at the IM stage.

Firstly, this tells them you're confident. One lady I did this too the other day was taken aback by it (in a really good way) as she'd never had anything sent to her like it in all the time she'd been on IE..

Secondly, videos and voice messages can be a big ice breaker and provides both parties with a good idea if a meet will actually go the way its intended and with the desired results.

Lastly.. its also an opportunity for one of the parties to do a quick runner before a lot of time is wasted engaging in days / weeks worth of conversations. ha ha

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Funguy77 - 15 Jul, 2024 - 04:19PM

See I thought I was going about it wrong by having slightly lengthy chat at first. I really do prefer a face to face coffee as I quite enjoy the awkwardnessssss lol it that just me

Wold love to meet someone right now

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EmnEm123 - 15 Jul, 2024 - 02:38PM

But he has had second dates, hence the question is he holding something back until then?

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FluffyClouds - 15 Jul, 2024 - 02:27PM

Meeting face to face is the deciding factor for a lot of people. Whilst messaging gets you so far, building a rapport and hopefully that then leading to a date (coffee etc), it can also be the make or break. It's a personal thing, some just aren't what you were expecting or there was no chemistry. Though, I think your ladies should have given you the reason for not wanting date number 2 rather than just disappearing.

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MagicMouse321 - 15 Jul, 2024 - 02:24PM

With five dates in a few months, all of which have ghosted you? My suggestion might be a bit odd to others reading but I would get to know your next date a little more before you meet them as you might find that you might naturally screen them out before you meet.

Text, leave voice notes, exchange pictures, double check that they want to meet, perhaps even highlight your insecurities.

Above all be truthful. Else guess what? they'll ghost you purely because it's to much like hard work to sit you down and explain what they have since found unattractive about you.

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1685539 - 15 Jul, 2024 - 02:20PM

Can you pass them on to me please and I will ask them for you on our dates!

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