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Here we go 693 - 10 Jan, 2025 - 09:09PM

Lust for adventure

Sounds like you struck gold twice. Here's hoping the same happens here. I also know the feeling of grief you mention. It's a tough one, but the memories of magical times makes it worth it.

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Lust for adventure - 10 Jan, 2025 - 05:50PM

I’ve had two FANTASTIC affairs from this site. First one lasted 2.5 years and the second one lasted 4 years and we met at least once a week and often twice (second affair). We did day time meets, overnights, and even mini breaks abroad. First Lady left her husband after 18 months and her being single made us finite. I didn’t think lightning could strike in the sane place twice but it did and exactly the same thing happened again with the second one. We endured her being single and dating for about 18 months and the inevitable happened. Leaves a BIG hole in your life when they’re gone….. that’s why I’m back!!

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Clickable Connection - 10 Jan, 2025 - 05:50PM

Ladies - ghosting is not right, I won't argue with you there. However let's not make this a gender thing - the ladies do this as much as the women ....believe me

I think everyone on here needs to treat each other, how they want to be treated - simple really

Delicious Chaos - 10 Jan, 2025 - 03:16PM

P99

Oh trust me, it’s happening

somethingnew19780 - 10 Jan, 2025 - 02:12PM

Enigma

It's not just the males,.the women ghost as well. I was having a real laugh with one person for over a week.
Sent a message one morning, nothing. System said she read it.
Sent a polite , good morning a few days later. Didn't want to come across all needy. System said she read it.
And them I'm blocked.

It happens to us all.

I try to be polite and respectful and I'm afraid you don't always get it returned. I would rather someone say " no thanks"
But then I can imagine some people would get shirty and swear at them for wasting their time.

Paula99 - 10 Jan, 2025 - 01:30PM

I am sure lots of women can write their memoirs of IE 🤔

Maybe I should advertise for a ‘ghostwriter’ 😂😂😂

Delicious Chaos - 10 Jan, 2025 - 12:36PM

Blondeshavemorefun

Definitely not you, just the nature of the beast.

Just remember they will be keeping their options open so if they go awol it’s either because
A. They have found someone they think is better
B. Life has got in the way
C. They have actually realised having an affair is not for them or they have realised they are not going to be able to get away it.

It’s the ones who ghost after date 2 or 3 that get me. Only to come back with some ridiculous excuse which is totally made up.
I’m sure some people believe their own BS here!

The ones I like the best are the ones who ghost only to return and trust me they will either thinking they can continue where they left it forgotten they had even had a conversation with you.

Message history is a wonderful thing!!

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Enigma.. - 10 Jan, 2025 - 11:01AM

Leggysheila

That gave me a laugh.
I was going to reply but you might of thought me a total b1tch.
Sarcasm is my default mode lol 😂.

Blondeshavemorefun

You are not doing or saying anything wrong.
Unfortunately that’s typical male behaviour on this site.
Once you get ghosted you’ll either not hear from them again because they think they have found a better option.
Or they’ll come crawling back with an excuse like work or family crisis 🙄.
Truth is the “better” option didn’t work out 😂.
Best to forget them and move on.
You are better than they are.
Put your sassy pants on 😉 (clicks fingers) 💋

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Clickable Connection - 10 Jan, 2025 - 10:53AM

Blondeshavmorefun - 10 Jan, 2025 - 08:48AM
Like Here we go 693 said , don't let it get you down, and I'm sure it's not you who is doing anything wrong. Ghosting seems to be default way of saying thanks but no thanks - to me it's careless and the people who do it lack the courage to let someone down.

Your profile seems awesome and you seem lovely , so just push on through 😘

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Here we go 693 - 10 Jan, 2025 - 10:37AM

Blondeshavemorefun

Honestly, I don't think you're doing anything wrong. It's just the way things seem to be here. The same thing has happened to me and I'm sure others on here. Don't let it get you down, I was incredibly lucky with my last affair and we just hit it off straight away.

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