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MadameDeMaintenon - 04 Mar, 2025 - 11:56PM

@MagicMouse321 - part of the issue is that we are being inundated with low effort messages like ‘hi’ and ‘had a good day?’ 🤷🏻‍♀️

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Here we go 693 - 04 Mar, 2025 - 12:41PM

If they stop messaging you back, that horse is dead my friend!!

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MagicMouse321 - 01 Mar, 2025 - 06:52PM

I think I read somewhere on this forum, that it’s called ‘breadcrumbing’. This is where a one sided conversation goes on and on. Eg. Man says ‘hi’, doesn’t get a response, and then once a day says something like; hi, how you doing? What’s up? How are you today? Etc

Two things wrong here. 1.) guy should just drop it as she’s not responded within a day or so, 2.) girl should just say, no thanks bye 👋 to put him out of his hopeful dilemma.

🙏 could women do this more often please?

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Cheryl Kim - 01 Mar, 2025 - 05:40PM

I think people show interest in different ways. But if the chat trend looks like you are the one doing most of the conversation facilitating, and waiting a long time in between messages, that is probably indication that things may not progress the way you want them to.

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Peaches1 - 28 Feb, 2025 - 10:10PM

Don't be fooled like I was thinking joining here would be easy. People are not open and honest on their profiles and are just desperate to get some attention. Don't bother pursuing someone who doesn't message you back regularly and don't pursue anyone who puts off meeting for weeks on end.

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1743108 - 27 Feb, 2025 - 02:00PM

There’s no rush, chill out.

EmnEm123 - 26 Feb, 2025 - 04:33PM

Man Alive

I forgot to add, I looked at your profile, I thought it was good. Have a little patience, you'll be fine. Good luck! 🤞

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EmnEm123 - 26 Feb, 2025 - 04:18PM

Man Alive

I wouldn't bother with a second message under those circumstances either. If they can't even give your profile a cursory glance, what's the point.

Of course, you'll get those questioning what type of messages you're sending. I think it doesn't have to be an essay, a polite hello to open a conversation is fine for me, if I like the profile I'll message back, if not I usually send a polite no thanks.

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Man_Alive_2025 - 26 Feb, 2025 - 03:19PM

Eminem 123 yes, that’s what I said. If they look at me I never send a second message

But when you message and they don’t look at your profile what are the thoughts on sending a follow up? I never do send a second message if I don’t get a response to my first…

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EmnEm123 - 26 Feb, 2025 - 02:52PM

Man Alive

If you've messaged and the recipient has viewed your profile without messaging back, they're not interested.

There is no point in sending a second message, move on.

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