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SirrahNek - 25 Feb, 2025 - 01:23PM

I think that our cultural norms are the problem - a woman can be unfairly judged if she's seen to be doing the chasing. And yes, I think that one or at most two introductory messages from an interested suitor is probably the limit - any more would be creepy. So make it count! Be interested in her specifically - a generic message which has no relevance to her or her profile (and I'm not saying that that's what you're doing!) feels like a wasted opportunity.
In the Netherlands, on the other hand, they don't share our anglican and old fashioned prudishness about women chasing men - perhaps we brits need to grow up and channel the attitudes of our dutch cousins. They're cyclists too - clearly a more advanced civilisation!

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Kitty19 - 25 Feb, 2025 - 01:19PM

For me it takes me a while to sift through the messages and so you may not get a response straightaway. For me, if you sent a second message then it would make you stand out as someone who knows what they want and is willing to put the effort in. Same with regular messaging once chat underway.

Paula99 - 25 Feb, 2025 - 11:36AM

If you think we are all ‘entitled princesses ‘ then maybe you are looking at the wrong profiles ….some of us haven’t got a shopping list but the most important thing is if you have read my profile and you decide to ignore what is written there then no response is what you will get..

I have manners and I expect manners in return ..😊

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InspiredBy - 25 Feb, 2025 - 11:11AM

It makes sense to chase someone that you've already met in real life and really like. But online is totally different, I think even a second message would look desperate when there is no response.

tmn2024 - 25 Feb, 2025 - 10:33AM

Women are spoiled for choice, though they would say that they are plagued by male attention that they don't want and it offends them. Perspectives can be oceans apart, ey?

Anyway, I reach out once or I reply once and that's where I stop. If she hasn't risen to meet me at that point it means she's about to put me in the annoying male category, or maybe already has. And quite honest, I'm not interested in someone who might make me chase them anyway.

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