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1420654 - 07 Nov, 2020 - 12:29PM

It does for most.

Do you want to eat your favourite meal everyday for the rest of your life? No, you'll get tired of it. Some marriages can cope with the same meal but adapt it so it tastes different, others simply cannot. If you do not have a partner willing to adapt, willing to experiment, willing to keep those new flavours flowing then unfortunately it is human nature to crave the things you desire most of all.

Treasure73 - 01 Nov, 2020 - 01:59PM

It does, but in some case it's aspects of it that has expires, that's why some of us stay and why some of us are here seeking said aspect. I find that the premise that a marriage is built upon is overrated. However, many marriages far exceed any expiration date, I personally think that staying in it will take a lot of hard work, dedication and an affair or two or four.... Therefore, I think some marriages should've opted out clauses and just like drivers licenses and passports a marriage license should be renewed every 5-10yrs.

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Boredathome38 - 11 Oct, 2020 - 09:18PM

Yes, I would say everything has a shelf life/ expiry date, Unfortunately some things have longer than others.

1317379 - 10 Oct, 2020 - 07:35AM

Yes...I think it should come up for renewal every decade

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ScepticalHusband - 08 Oct, 2020 - 07:56PM

I don't think it's predestined, but some factors do come into play. My wife knows me inside out, which sounds ideal but it also means I no longer surprise her. She knows what I'm going to say or how I'll react in a given situation, so there's no anticipation for her. Lockdown has exacerbated that, I don't have outside world experiences (daily encounters, not affairs) to bring home and share - so it's little wonder she's bored of me. I suspect the same is true of many marriages - we need enough differences to keep things interesting

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1409144 - 05 Oct, 2020 - 10:53AM

Suppose it depends on expectations and mutual understanding That the nature of the relationship will likely change over time and trying to stay aligned thoroughout ... a big ask.. in my case we both headed off in different directions in terms of what our priorities were .. but without explicit acknowledgement which in itself created a rift that can’t be healed ... so we have come to our own expiry date without realising it and (one of us) chose to disregard the issues which further accelerated the decline so to speak ... I ramble on...

ClassyLady77 - 05 Oct, 2020 - 10:16AM

For me it was 20 years... I had enough of the negativity in my life I needed some fun or I would explode..

Having a affair helped me explore that hidden fun side and it made me a better wife and mother

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Trwela - 05 Oct, 2020 - 09:41AM

I think there are two expiry dates that seem to hit couples.

The first comes along after about 10 years of children being born. There seems to be a point which takes the couple in different directions.

The second seems to be after you have passed middle age, and that's where I am. With me the interference of mothers and fathers not being able to cope and then add your married children who are hitting the first divorce line and they can't cope either. These are things that again take you away from each other and then lead you to travel down separate roads.

SamJ72 - 05 Oct, 2020 - 02:18AM

I think all relationships have a life span. Some are longer than our lives and in that case we do t get to see the expiration date, whereas others go out of date before our eyes and become sour.

Naughty_at_Knight - 03 Oct, 2020 - 08:10AM

If both parties don't make an effort to keep it fresh then definitely.

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