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James1955 - 02 Apr, 2025 - 05:27PM

Well several years ago, I met a lady though fab swingers who lived in the Cotswolds. Her house was about 70 miles from mine in Slough. She couldnt accomodate, (no problem,) but we couldnt be seen in the local villages either, so I met her in a quiet local area and took off to either Cheltenham or Gloucester, On my quite quick motorbike I could get to her village in an hour, but with additional travelling it made about 1.5hours before we could settle down, in a cafe or wherever. So when we met, about 3 hours out of the day was taken in traveling. (would be more like 5-6 hours in my car) Luckily she loved biking so I even did the trip in sub zero temperatures. We Usually met twice a month. Really put the miles on my bikes. We met for 10 years though. Was great but took serious planning. Sadly she is no longer with us. TBH I Would love a lady who drives and withing say 20 miles, Would enable those impromptue meets. and half way. Where are you Mrs 20 miles away? lol

blackindulgence - 16 Mar, 2025 - 06:05PM

Needs to be min 30 mins to 2 hours away (Subject to attraction and compatibility)

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budgie817 - 16 Mar, 2025 - 04:38PM

Needs to be within practical bounds, miles and miles is less likely to work for people. A little distance is probably a good thing though, saves likelihood of awkward clash of outside lives intersecting and provides a bit of anticipation on the way to meet too. A little distance to me would be a 20 to 45 minute drive away.

ExoticOrchid - 15 Mar, 2025 - 05:00PM

Location Location Location!!!

Distance absolutely matters ... even as a single, I can't just meet up when it suits the man ... singles have lives outside of IE too ... no matter what marrieds think!!!

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SirrahNek - 15 Mar, 2025 - 04:40PM

Laugar164 - not just the ladies. Some of us chaps are in that position too. If the share of work is divided equally then the men will be looking after the kids too. Even teens need taking to after school clubs, doctors appointments and so forth, and the dinner won't cook itself. Mrs SirrahNek works, I work, we share the house and cajoling the kids to do their bloody homework. So distance needs to be measured in "whatever I can get away with for my hobby" or "I've just got to attend this meeting" miles. But enjoy your ear worm - it's a banger!

Cheryl Kim - Yes. Exactly.

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Cheryl Kim - 15 Mar, 2025 - 03:51PM

laugar164 - 15 Mar, 2025 - 03:21PM

Too often it is assumed a woman goes into this able to meet whenever the man flies into town. You are right in saying that we also juggle the role of wife, mother, caregiver, and can never afford to be too far away should we need to be with our loved ones in an emergency.

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laugar164 - 15 Mar, 2025 - 03:21PM

Tnm2024
I'd say you are probably wrong there mileage and travel does matter especially for the ladies as they may have children and a house to run
no
Lady would want to be to far away with the possibility of there child getting ill and the possibility of getting sent home from school or nursery

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tmn2024 - 14 Mar, 2025 - 06:19PM

Distance is measured in miles and they are easily travelled. If you click with someone, then travel is a non issue.

In the background I think I hear The Proclaimers now.......😁

George2000 - 14 Mar, 2025 - 04:26PM

Having an IE in another part of the country, where you travel to regularly, has been good for me in the past. Its not a case of just looking for a hookup it can be the only time you get to be out without arousing suspicions at home. It also ensures you won’t accidentally bump into each other when out and about with our partners
I have found my IE partners has been good with the distance and its much more important to build mutual trust to enable a connection to develop. When that happens it can be a great experience.

Paula99 - 12 Mar, 2025 - 08:53PM

Edward 1260…

In the words of yourself ‘you are a newbie ‘…you haven’t tried this as yet ?..
You know what they say about the best laid plans ?😞