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Doubleohseven - 17 Dec, 2024 - 12:51AM

I don't mind women coldly replying to a 1st message: "How tall are you?"
Their preference for a taller guy has an evolutionary basis.
Most men have evolutionary preferences too, e.g. for younger women, and women with a low waist to hip ratio. I don't mean the 500 active IE male members, for whom "age is just a number" and "don't have a body type". I mean the other 3bn men.
Including me. And so, before my current IE, I had to find out.
Asking a woman about her waist to hip ratio is a bit technical, so instead I asked her the meaning of "curvy", or her dress size. Often I got a very defensive reply, or a rude one like the lady who snarled "I hope you die of herpes". I don't mind poor manners, but I do resent an uninformed curse. Herpes isn't lethal, everyone knows that.

But what puzzles me the most is this: given the sound evolutionary basis of both sexes' preferences, why can't we be direct about them?
So, ladies who ask us about out height - can we just ask you about your width?

Here we go 693 - 13 Dec, 2024 - 11:05PM

To turn this on its head, surely some men are looking for a certain type. Often this is bourne out by media/fashion/porn sites where models have a specific criteria. Given the stats of male: female it's a lost cause. Aside from that frankly mythical perfection, we all have flaws, some physical some non physical. Sometimes attraction transcends this and we find ourselves attracted to someone we never thought we would consider. It's just a matter of opening our minds

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Paula99 - 13 Dec, 2024 - 12:16PM

Anyone with an ounce of common sense would think …..hold on flashy cars /holidays/money /shopping trips this only happens in Mills n Boon ..
There are lots of fake profiles on here and there are ‘certain types’ that require a bank account….but there are regular people that earn their own crust and are not looking for another husband ….yes I married a tall dark and handsome guy but I was 25 …what did I know about guys only what I had seen on the tv and read in books?
The point I am trying to make is we are not the same people and life has shown us there are more important things to consider …
As far as women being ‘choosy ‘ on here that’s a factor created by IE males to compensate for their archaic behaviour and the fact they have to pay ….

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Persephone80 - 13 Dec, 2024 - 07:27AM

As has been said looks are subjective what I find attractive in a man others may not.

Tall … like P99 most people are taller than me ..

Dark … well grey/silver is my type

Handsome - well yes handsome to me- there needs to mutual attraction

Also there needs to be a connection I want to chat and laugh and have things in common it’s not just down to looks it’s the whole package.

As for holidays!shopping trips / flashy cars .. erm I looking for an affair not a new husband - even of my ie offered a holiday … not sure I could explain that away (even a night away is hard ). So the OP should not tar us all with the same brush ..

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BreathOfFreshAir - 12 Dec, 2024 - 11:41PM

This is the problem with online dating. Much like cars being unfairly judged on a set of numbers in a magazine review, or movies in a score out of ten; people are too complex to be summed up in a profile, but that’s what happens online. I am actually tall and dark, well off, and own three nice cars, as per your description. I e even been called handsome, but nope, not a single date in four months on here. That’s clearly not enough - the level of perfection required to go on a single date is still a mystery to me. Maybe I need that six pack? 😃

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Clickable Connection - 12 Dec, 2024 - 02:01PM

Let's face it lads - there are many more men on here than women. In addition men have to pay , a f therefore here for a short time.

Therefore women can afford to be more picky about the IE they are after , in addition can afford to be more patient to find that IE.

That's the online dating model folks , it is what it is.

I would also say , it's not just the women who have a list of demands , I've seen some men profiles , and wow seems like a shopping list of what the what 😂😂

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marklondonengland - 12 Dec, 2024 - 12:38PM

Everyone knows that the ability to communicate and be on the same page about what you want is the most important thing in an IE, but who can deny that they also want to find their partner at least slightly attractive?

If I were a woman then I would certainly include physical attributes on my list of demands because there are many more men seeking women, so it should be possible to find someone who is handsome AND interesting too...

TBH this sounds a bit pleading anyway. Like saying you are out of shape, have a beer belly, can't walk upstairs without getting out of breath, but hey I am an interesting bloke, why aren't any women responding to me?

Three Little Words - 12 Dec, 2024 - 09:19AM

I think some women are intent on their idea of the perfect partner for an affair and the physical attribute that they’re after.

And then they’ll be disappointed when the personality doesn’t match their ideal. I fear that some women will never meet who they’re looking for because they’ll always be chasing that image of their ideal man.

For me, personality and attitude are key - if you’re a nice person, that wins me over like nothing else will.

Paula99 - 01 Nov, 2024 - 06:28PM

That’s why it says on my profile …

Height is irrelevant…everyone is taller than me 😂

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1704344 - 01 Nov, 2024 - 11:08AM

I have also seen plenty of profiles wanting 6’ and over. I wonder whether this is simply a tactic to limit the amount of messages or a handy way of simply ignoring uninteresting suitors. I’m 5’11 so is that extra inch really all that important?

As for dark, I have a healthy outdoors tan, but I’m certainly not going to go to a spa and go the full airbrush route.

Handsome? I’ve had women compliment my looks. I’ve also had others just quit messaging after they’ve seen me, I’ve even had a couple block me after seeing me. Looks are entirely subjective.