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Paula99 - 21 Dec, 2024 - 08:12AM

We all put too much pressure on ourselves to be liked and accepted….but in reality you just need to take this in your stride …never mind what you hear/see on social media networking ….people will genuinely like you for who you are and not your aspirations…just because people don’t say it doesn’t mean they are not thinking it … it just shows the maturity of the person involved…
You will be surprised to know that honesty (the irony I know) is a factor in this type of relationship….you will beable to see the fakers/knobheads a mile away…😁

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TheBoredHousewife - 21 Dec, 2024 - 07:56AM

Clickable Connection - 21 Dec, 2024 - 07:21AM

Couldn’t agree more. A man confident of his ability, and really interested in a woman would simply go out and smash whatever ‘competition’ there is out of the ball park.

TheBoredHousewife - 21 Dec, 2024 - 07:51AM

It would be more of a surprise if a man I was chatting to at an initial stage wasn’t trying to message others. However it is very easy to tell if mutual interest is present, and if both parties are making an effort towards a potential meet.

As Paula99 says, don’t overthink it!

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Clickable Connection - 21 Dec, 2024 - 07:21AM

Sorry if this upsets anyone but ....

If you're too worried about how many people they are chatting with , then that's more about your own insecurities. If you ask how many you're chatting with - you're basically asking , "what's my competition?", "where do I fit in the pecking order"

Just chill and focus on being your self - the rest will follow

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Chris196929 - 20 Dec, 2024 - 05:32PM

On this site it must be difficult to know who is telling the truth. I suppose you have to go with your cut instincts and certainly don't worry if someone is talking to someone else as it is unlikely to be your future solemate if we are on here for a bit of fun.
I'm looking for one person to share regular fun times with but I'm sure there are male and female IE 's who are happy to have more than one on the go.

Clickable Connection - 20 Dec, 2024 - 01:13PM

Paula99 - 20 Dec, 2024 - 05:29AM

Totally agree. Early days , we have to talk to multiple folks to know who might or might not work out. Anyone who says they are not chatting to multiple folks is either lying , or really doesn't understand the game at all.

Obviously there comes a time when exclusivity is needed , but that differs from person to person. For me once I've met someone , and we both agree we like eachother, than that's a good signal for me to be exclusive and stop chatting to others.

Although having said that , that moment of exclusivity has come earlier. There have been times when the connection is strong through chat , even though we've not met.

But generally agree that most of us during early days will chat to others. There's no need to fret about it - just chill and enjoy what you got and the rest will work it self out

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Three Little Words - 20 Dec, 2024 - 11:45AM

If there’s one partner who’s looking like she’ll be a good match for me and we’re getting on well, then I’ll usually stop talking/looking for others and concentrate on that one connection.

Sometimes that connection doesn’t bear fruition a d then it’s back to square one again.

For me, it’s easier to do it that way. I give one good woman my full attention. I guess I’m just traditional that way.

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Purple dreamer - 20 Dec, 2024 - 08:24AM

I think talking is a very different thing to meeting

boav91 - 20 Dec, 2024 - 06:29AM

I think the reality is when you are here initially you have to talk to lots of people to find the one you will become your ie. Until you settle on someone it has to be like that.

Once you have an ie then that may be different. Since I have met someone I don’t do conversations any more.

I was always honest at the start, although you don’t make a big thing of it and shout about it. That would be a bit weird. .Some understood others did not. It is all about understanding the nature of this place. If people here think they will be exclusive when not attached that I think is not realistic.

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Paula99 - 20 Dec, 2024 - 05:29AM

In the beginning of any relationship you have to chat with others to find out what you like …..does it really matter if he/she is chatting to other people?
If he/she really likes you …you will soon get their attention…why be concerned if there is no need to be ?
If he/she gives you one liners and random texts move on

Don’t overthink it 💋

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