The_Vanilla_Alternative

About Me:

I split my time between the US and UK, usually a week at a time. I live outside of London, in rural Oxfordshire , but meetings are easiest in London (Central), exceptions can be made within (sensible) reason (this means the home counties to Birmingham )

I am not looking for a secondary relationship, life is hectic, however , I do want a genuine friendship , that is what I always aim for and something that I will nurture.

A sexual Alpha male, but not a Dominant in the truest sense ( I have no desire to be controlling outside of a hotel room), although I do enjoy and ensure domination in the classic sense as part of wider play.

What interests me most is, primarily, giving pleasure, pushing your limits and boundaries. I am generous with the time I spend focussed on you, this is my primary kink, if you want to call it that. I am a tease, but in the most delightful sense.

Highly experienced, with varying tastes ranging from playful to your full submission - I play hard, but it is your pleasure that interests me.

I will not mark, bruise, humiliate or debase you. You will return to your husband in the same physical state you arrived in, unless mutually, consensually agreed otherwise.

I will take you from your real life and provide sexual escapism, that is what is on offer. Ideally with one person, repeated over time.

If you want to know more - please get in touch.

I rarely message people first on here, unless it is glaringly obvious we share aligned interests - so if you want to play - come and find me and say hello.

Discussion, openness, transparency and trust are key to this being a mutually satisfactory, pleasurable, arrangement.

Ideal Partner:

Bored/frustrated/lacking sexually and looking for enlightenment, escapism, something more meaningful than a hotel liaison where a guy fulfils his fantasy - this is about you - I enjoy the journey, it is as much a mental escape for me, as it is a physical one.

You will be experienced or sexually adventurous/curious - very open to experimenting and being guided in a wide range of sexual play.

You will yearn for domination some of the time, having your mind broadened and boundaries pushed through consensual experimentation (and I will check and test you on this before we meet, my time is limited and you must be clear about what we both want)

Confident in yourself, sure about what your needs, fantasies and desires are - even if you are unsure of how to achieve them.

Be comfortable with your body, I have no set body type preference. My age range is guidance - if you are a little above or below, that will be ok. It is a similar outlook I am seeking, not a specific age.

You seek and need an experienced, kind, discreet, trusting partner to make this a reality for you.

In the past, I have found I appeal most to a married senior leader or executive that needs escapism for a variety of reasons. This is not a requisite or requirement, just who I usually appeal to, and who usually appeals to me. Primarily - similar people, similar outlooks.

I do not provide financial incentive of any sort, nor will I fund this exclusively. It will be a mutual arrangement.

Note:

I have been very very direct and explicitly sexual about what I seek- that is because I know who I am, and what I want. I also know what I do not want.

There is, however, a soft, nurturing, caring side to me and I will meet you for a drink, verbally explore with you what you want to achieve before ever venturing near a closed door.

I am not everyone's cup of tea...thats perfectly ok. :-)

Other Interests:

Food and Wine

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