Titus Oates

About Me:

I've had more than one persona in my life as result of having very different lines of work over the years. Each chapter was a role and I embraced them all and regret none. Like many, I've changed in terms of what I need to pursue to feel satisfied with my lot. Yet I still feel a real connection to the boy I once was, so in some ways I've barely changed at all. Certainly my values haven't. But as I grew up I realised that I just need more in life that many others do. More hedonism and more adventure. I particularly crave the connection you can have with (in my case) a woman. You can have a long and genuine conversation with someone at a party, on a train, or even a laundromat (remember them). But nothing comes as close as the intimacy and openness that comes from the conversation with someone you just had sex with, entwined on a bed, covered in a sheen of sweat, with interlocked limbs in a carefully arranged bolt hole from the mundane.

I've done this before, more than once and it has been very successful. I took a break necessitated by a taking up a new profession when stolen time was just not an option. But I missed it. I needed it. So I'm back.

I'm happily married. Not seeking to do anything that would destabilise that. So not one of the men on here who seem to be looking for a big red destruction button with which to end their toxic or dying marriage.

But I have a craving for more. Unbridled, exploratory hedonism and a connection would be a succinct description. I don't have a type physically or politically - if anything a difference of bodies and minds can be more interesting. Enjoy using rope and toys, if that is your thing, but would not get much out of if it isn't yours. There are things I do like, but only when they are a mutual pleasure.

In the real world I have a demanding job. But I've carved out some time in the anticipation of having an secret connection. Aside from work and family life, I climb as often as I can. Love a wide array of music but particularly classical. I've always read widely. I can do frothy pop culture too though,

Ideal Partner:

Someone who wants to explore. Someone who can still change their mind and doesn't have a fixed and impenetrable set of opinions. Someone who knows how to chill and watch a movie, but also wouldn't hesitate to try something new. A woman who is interested or experienced in kink would be advantageous. Someone who would not be able to resist getting up and dancing to their favourite song if it was played in a club. Someone with empathy, but enough hard-headed realism that this would have to be something hopefully unbelievably fun, but also hidden away.

Other Interests:

Literature / History

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