activelyseekinglover

About Me:

In summary, essentially I am hoping to find a long term freind and confidante

I am prompted to amend my previous profile as I am informed that it appeared that I am shallow, insincere and 'a player'.
As this is wrong in every way it did seem worth taking some effort to correct that impression.
I discovered during (our) honeymoon that my beloved viewed sex as a one off and for procreation. We should maybe have parted company then, but I love her to bits and tried very hard to improve things - both for her and me. After a while I realised that 'it was impossible' - and (contrary to some people's views) 'saved' our marriage by finding elsewhere what was so tragically missingc
I have thus, more from necessity than desire, had another lady in my life for most of our marriage. These friendships have been long term - 7 years, 20+ years and nearly 5 - and 'monogamous on my part' (though with no expectation of the same from the other ladies). The 'relationships' have been based on genuine friendship, affection and respect, but (apart form the last) with no intention on either part to change our 'normal' relationships.
I have tried again, as I have tried before, to 'manage without another lady', but have found it not only difficult but to impose the strains on our marriage that 'the other ladies' have relieved.
Hence my looking, again, for a long term lady friend of whom to be very fond.
Sorry if that is boring but let's not have any misunderstandings this time.

Ideal Partner:

I should like to find a lady, married, divorced, separated or single, who desires (ideally) a long term affectionate friendship with a man who would prefer to remain securely married to another lady.
I am not so vain as to specify the physical attributes of such a lady, though I am more attracted to taller, slimly built ladies with smaller accoutrements than to the Brunhilders of the world.
The truth is that all the physical features of a lady of whom you are fond 'are the nicest in the world because they are hers', not because of being any particular shape.
The essential aspects are far more intangible - very beautiful ladies can be unappealing people - and 'physics aside', outlook and demeanour are far more attractive. There are some ladies it would be lovely to go to bed with, others with whom it would be lovely to wake up and spend the day - some are both.
Although I am looking for 'one lady', I do not ask for nor expect 'exclusivity' and ladies with wider appetites and experiences are generally more interesting than those without.
If I had to draw an ideal lady, it would more likely be a drawing of her eyes and smile than anything below her neck.
Practical politics indicates that geography and proximity are going to be important features - though distance is better measured in time than miles and from that aspect London is closer than Norwich - but 40 minutes travelling time (each way) is about the practical limit - except for a very, very special lady.

Other Interests:

Nature, Cars / Motorcycles, Gardening, Music - Classical / Opera, Music - Rock, Hiking / Camping, Politics, Literature / History, Mountaineering, Sailing / Boating, Tennis / Racket Sports, Travel / Sightseeing, Cooking

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