AlexLNU

About Me:

Let's face it, we'd all much rather regret the sex we've had rather than the sex we didn't have, wouldn't we?

Sex at its best combines erotic choreography, sensual improvisation and, ideally, temperamental union. And this is what I want to revitalise, restore and reinvigorate in my life ... with the right lady.

First off, you're not going to hear a bunch of moaning rubbish about being bored or 'my wife doesn't understand me' claptrap. I am married to a beautiful woman whom I love very much but who, for medical reasons, is unable to function sexually.  It recently became clear that this will not change, ever. Which makes for a hell of a dilemma.  I am a fully functional male and in reasonably good health.  And really would rather not spend the remainder of my life celibate by force of circumstance.

So here you find me, looking for someone with whom to breathe new life into the sexual dimensions of our existence with someone sensitive to your desires and your circumstances, with whom to share pleasure and passion, a bedmate and confidante.

Who you are I don't know yet.  I expect you'll be in broadly the same age range as myself. And most likely you'll be in a situation somehow analogous or aligned with my own, or finding yourself otherwise solitary and celibate for one reason or another. At least seething with unrequited but unfocused desire....

So what else is there to tell about me that would be useful for you to know?

Philosophically my life is shaped by the old Taoist notion of yin and yang. I my professional life is cerebral, largely deskbound but I've been active in the traditional Asian martial arts since my teens, and have trained in both the overseas Chinese community and in Asia. I train as often work/life permits, and practice Ch'i Gong most mornings and teach classes twice a week. Ran a little self-test on myself recently, and besides being able to do the left and right splits without warming up could still drive through 50 V-snaps (imagine a sit up where you raise your legs at the same time as your torso and clap behind your knees) and 100 conventional press-ups. That last one was a pleasant surprise, I usually work lower reps of specialised press-ups (knuckle, fingertip, staged [holding at the half-way point going up and down] and so forth).

This sort of gets to the 'body type' thing. Essentially I have the physique of someone who has practiced martial arts for 47 years, which I suppose one might describe as cylindrical and solid rather than the inverted triangle of youthful athleticism.

Otherwise I'm an unreconstructed nerdling. So here come some potential utter deal breakers for otherwise promising potential matches ... Music? Film scores. Love and collect. Will tolerate some 70s/80s prog/experimental. Currently bingeing Matthew Sweet's Radio 3 'Sounds of the Cinema' on BBC Sounds. TV - recent binges would be Only Murder In the Building, Andor and Hannah Fry's Secret Genius of Modern Life documentaries. OK, partly I'm watching that last one because I think Fry is Hot As F-... Fire. Yeah, Hot As Fire, that's the ticket.

So what is on offer? Friendship, sex and trust. Hopefully some bouts of helpless giggles (including occasionally in bed), and thoughtful conversation (also in bed, but, you know, more before and after than during ... as it were).  And, like obviously, discretion. My evenings are committed on the domestic front but my daytimes are flexible, so meets during the daylight 9 to 5 window are most practical. So meet for coffee, lunch then slip away somewhere secret to share secrets.

To lay my cards on the table, and indicate the ... competencies ... I bring to the table: I have done the extramarital thing a couple of times before, a long time ago and in a very different context. But been there and done that. Beyond that, my relationships have been about half and half divided between intense but inventive vanilla relationships and ones that were intensively D&s with a series of deeply and passionately submissive ladies.

And while I'm not absolutely averse to short-term dalliances my preference is for something medium to long term with one special, trusted person. Minds don't meet instantly (usually - one-glance 'kaboom's do happen), and lovemaking is very much a steady process of exploration, discovery and progressive revelations of deeper erotic and psychological intimacy.

Plus, finally, a few ground rules. If you want to message, please have something substantial to say rather than one sentence vacuities like 'Tell me yours and I'll tell me mine.' I'm not here for vague virtual titillation, but make something real happen. If you have something interesting and worthwhile to say, however, I am all attention. Oh, and if your profile front-loads 'must be tall', jog on by and don't bother with even the vague virtuals, I probably won't bother replying. If craning your neck up at very high inclinations is a must-have then you're wasting my time and yours. I can't do anything about the fact that my DNA comes from Wrexham - where, as far as I can tell, every adult is the same size and shape as me. Genetics, what a concept. But if you want to start a real conversation....

Ideal Partner:

Have you seen this meme: two people meet in a bar, 1 asks 2 'What's your type?' and 2 says 'I'm a sapiosexual'; so 1 asks 'What's that?' to which 2 replies 'NEXT!'

So I would be 2, mostly, although physical charms definitely have their place alongside wit and perspicacity. Plus more down-to-Earth traits like compassion and discretion. And, of course, passion - that need to breathe new life into their erotic self in a bubble of privacy, confidence and trust.

A meeting of bodies works best when there is a meeting of minds, and temperaments. In my experience, not all sex is lovemaking but really good, purely desire-driven sex has an underlying lovemaking vibe. Mutual understanding and discovery is the foundation of the sensual artistry and choreography of sex at its best.

Speaking of physical charms, what do I look at in a woman physically? In order - cheekbones, waistline, bottom. The first essentially age-proofs attractiveness - good bone structure is attractive with or without lines and wrinkles. Laugh lines convey warmth, some etching around the mouth gives character. Who wants anonymous plastic perfection? One wants to go to bed with someone *interesting*, doesn't one? The waistline and bottom are good indicators of health and fitness. An eye-catching waistline can come as much with curvaceousness as slenderness.

I will confess to always having been vaguely anti-pubic hair - even before the Millenials decided to make it fashionable to shave 'down there' (cue rolling-eyes emoji) and you started seeing pink and pastel razors in the women's department in Boots (in *Boots* fer Gahd's sake, what's this nation coming to?). One of the most beautiful things in the world is a woman's sex, and being able to see what is happening between us when we make love - and hair rather gets in the way of that, doesn't it? So sparse hair, closely trimmed or shaven if possible please.

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