AnArrowInSunlitWater

About Me:

I've been on this Earth for fifty-nine years. At times, that has felt a long time- at others, merely a blink of the eye.
A poetical, romantic outlook is essential for me. Immediacy, having everything all at once, I find unsatisfying because the journey is often just as thrilling as the arrival.
Every romance has its story: maybe dislike at first ( I often recall the greatest love of my life disliked me intensely to start with, and refused to go out with me for three years!), misunderstanding, realisation, appreciation and love. And every part of life, including IE, has it's own narrative.
I am a widower. I lost that girl - the one who refused to go out with me for three years-some time ago. But we created memories together, and went on to share a happy home and two wonderful children. But losing her has meant I've sacrificed much of my own life for others. But then again, they have been my life.
Now they have grown, I find myself retired, and somewhat lonely. I don't mean in a physical sense as I have many friends, but in my heart and body. I seek that joy that only a woman can bring to a man's life. There is a hole in my heart with a woman's outline. But I want discretion. I have no intention at all of remarrying because it would cause mayhem and massive disruption to my family for many different reasons. No. My children have their view of me, and I occupy a very specific place in the world. But I have private needs too.

Is this the right forum to find someone? Who knows! I've been here several times without finding what I miss. There have been some nice chats, but many pointless and time consuming ones too.
So here is what I want:
I seek communication. I want you to write to me on here to start with. I do not want to see your photo; I want to hear what you have to say, work out if we are compatible, discover as much about you as you want to tell me. And I would like to do the same. I'd like to talk to you and hear your voice as you tell me how you feel. I want to understand how you think and see the world. I'd love to know you as an individual, not just one of many usernames on a website.
If we decide we'd like to meet, it's because we like the sound of each other and we're comfortable talking. Even if someone isn't photogenic on first glance, knowing them better can improve your opinion of them. I've met some truly awful but 'good-looking' women in the past, and, likewise, some 'plain' women on first acquaintance who have become radiant in my eyes once I've discovered the wonderful qualities they possess.
I'd love to discover someone who it is an honour to know. I'd love to want to stand up and say 'This woman is with me. And I think she's fantastic.' Someone who touches my life with light and understanding and joy. Maybe she is a friend; maybe a lover; maybe a confidante. Who can tell what the stars have ordained for us?
I'm still very interested in romance and love-making- don't get me wrong, I'm here for the full deal not just a chat-but if ever I were lucky enough to know you, I'd want, in the future, to think of you and say to myself: ' Ah, yes. I remember her touch. I remember her kiss. She was a very special woman in my life.'
What other way is there? Even if it is decreed that our time together is short, I'd want it to be special for us both. I'd want you to think of me in your private moments, and, with a smile on your lips, think: ' Ours was an affair worth having! I'm glad I knew him.'

You will either understand this, or you won't.
If you read this and think ' That's what I seek too,' then please get in touch. I know you will be inundated with messages, so if you want to chat please let me know you'd welcome my overture by sending a VK or a message. That way, I know I'm not bothering you or sending unwanted mail.
And please don't interpret my reluctance to see photos or engage in sex chat as my having a lack of verve. Far from it! I seek the real thing with a real woman. We can save the naughtiness for when we've found each other, and the bedroom door closes.

Ideal Partner:

Someone who understands what I've written above.
The age of your body is unimportant. It's the age and richness of your soul that brings light into the world.

Other Interests:

Nature, Arts / Crafts, Gardening, Music - Classical / Opera, Music - Pop / R&B, Music - World, Literature / History, Gym / Aerobics, Mountaineering, Travel / Sightseeing, Yoga / Meditation, Cooking, Food and Wine

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