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1382712 - 02 Jul, 2020 - 06:41PM

Hey come life’s far too short .. let’s enjoy ourselves

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283889 - 02 Jul, 2020 - 05:40PM

@7_inchshlong -02 july 2020

So why are you still here?
Ask IE to remove your profile but don't dare try and bring the rest of us down with your shame.

Shame is so personal, it has to be owned by an individual.

Shame on you I say.

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WaitingtobeFound - 02 Jul, 2020 - 05:37PM

If you are new to having an affair, as distinct from the site the read all the good online material bout how to conduct an affair and in particular how not to get caught which is an event likely to be hurtful and disastrous for all concerned, then decide what you want out of this. Don't be shy, but don't be too pushy either and be yourself!
Be prepared to be lied to but if you find the right person it's great.
As someone commented you do need ground rules to be agreed pretty early on. The rules my i.e and I have is that we will only call or text when safe to do so, risks are silly when we will both be here for each other in an hour, tomorrow next week or next month. We also agreed that we wouldn't be changing our domestic situations. We didn't agree that we wouldn't fall in love which we have and meet on the basis of friendship as well as for sexual encounters. We have been lucky as we were the only people either of us met on the site this time round though we have both had affairs in other marriages.

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longest days stolen nights - 02 Jul, 2020 - 04:41PM

...nothing ventured nothing gained...

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1323236 - 02 Jul, 2020 - 04:15PM

@don9999_ie

Most people can not be honest with them selfs never mind with others.

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don9999_ie - 02 Jul, 2020 - 11:50AM

Take your time and tread carefully!

NO ONE (including me!) is totally honest. Whatever they may say. Man or woman. We are on this site after all!

That's not to say that the majority are not nice people. We are. I am!

But you only get to know the real person over a period of time. I have chatted to some lovely people and we appear to get on great. But after a little while of messaging and as we get to know each other, one party or the other will realise that we just don't 'click' (for whatever reason).

Now, 'I' at least, appreciate that we can't ALL be attracted to everyone else. And I mean mentally as much as physically.

A gentle let-down, with something along the lines of 'thanks, but no thanks' is usually enough. And the search continues.

There are LOT'S of different people on here, looking for LOT'S of different things. Some just want sex! Some just want to chat. Some (including me) want something in the middle - chatting, flirting, getting to know someone, and seeing if we DO

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mistinthesea - 02 Jul, 2020 - 11:24AM

still finding my way around too after a long time!

7_inchshlong - 02 Jul, 2020 - 10:18AM

I feel ashamed that I'm looking to have an affair honestly, signing up for this site was probably a bad idea.

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BenA244 - 02 Jul, 2020 - 09:27AM

Why do we do this?
To fantasize and get the things we are missing at home.

3rdAge - 24 Jun, 2020 - 03:57PM

Hi, Dont do it till you are pretty sure you cn both handle any guilt feelings and you can arrange the time out and after that - dont expect too much and persevere!

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