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1399985 - 11 Sep, 2020 - 08:48AM

@Sportster1200L I think it is you who has missed my point actually.

My main point is that you were being patronising, which I don't appreciate.

My earlier point in response to your comment about other countries, was that the fact it's socially acceptable for men to have mistresses as in Brazil, will never be the status quo here BECAUSE here it is equally frowned upon for men and women to have affairs so we have a bit more equality on the matter. So you've misinterpreted me entirely.

Just to reiterate, please don't patronise me.

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tea_coffee_me_ - 11 Sep, 2020 - 08:42AM

Why fe/male have affairs can be very complex.

Whilst married my then husband had many affairs, I had to put up and shut up.
It was of course all my fault and he was not nice to me before, during or after they inevitably ended!
They had expensive gifts ... and before the film 'love actually' came out, I was given the compilation cd for Christmas!
Even though he would not touch me, I could not take the risk of having an affair whilst married.

There have always been and will always be MANY reasons why people do and do not have affairs. Risk and power are a large part of that equation.

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1117169 - 11 Sep, 2020 - 06:53AM

@Devon Pixie

You still miss the point I'm making.

The reality is that it is no less or more acceptable for women to have affairs than men because at least an equal number are actually doing so.

Why do you think its less acceptable for women?

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1386735 - 11 Sep, 2020 - 06:47AM

All valid points raised by the posters below to my comment, BUT being poly is different, the other people know they are ina poly relationship.
Scenario male or female has unprotected sex with an IE, that IE has had unprotected sex with another IE. The original IE ends up with an STD, how do you explain that one at home, of the wife or husband is only having sex with the one person who brought it home. It happens people.
Anyway new thread please...😁

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UsedtobeBert - 11 Sep, 2020 - 06:39AM

that was the reason....finding someone nearby was the next challenge

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Mitzi999 - 11 Sep, 2020 - 01:00AM

I don’t have sex without a condom with anyone. No exceptions. If they don’t like it, then bye.

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1399985 - 10 Sep, 2020 - 11:32PM

@Sportster1200L you literally said these exact words "In many cultures it is the norm for married men to have a discreet , or even openly acknowledged and tolerated mistress or mistresses." I wasn't making any false assumptions classic or otherwise, I was replying to your statement. There may well be just as many women having affairs in those countries (although I doubt it) but my reply was to your statement alone.

Furthermore, not only was you reply very patronising but also entirely absurd, suggesting that I, a woman currently having affairs, am making the classic false assumption women don't have affairs.

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1353286 - 10 Sep, 2020 - 11:19PM

Haven't had physical contact of any sort with my husband for 2 years, he doesn't come near me anymore

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1117169 - 10 Sep, 2020 - 11:16PM

@Devon Pixie

You are making the classic false assumption that its only men that have affairs.

For every man that has an affair there is a woman doing it too.

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tea_coffee_me_ - 10 Sep, 2020 - 11:11PM

"Suadela2020 - Again..I don’t get those people that are having sex at home and don’t want to use protection with their IE. Both things are madness in my opinion. "

Personally I have found IE with or without sex at home a MUCH better attitude for 'safe sex'. Out in the dating world it was a nightmare. Bring up the subject and the excuses were those of a teenager! Don't like them, not the same, don't you trust me ....

Either due to the fact I make a big deal of it on my profile or the men I actually reach that point with are more grown up, I am not sure, however it has NEVER, to date been an issue.
Some of the men have been poly so for that it is completely natural as they only have unprotected with their wives or equivalent.

That aspect - :-D A* etc

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