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ClassyLady77 - 12 Nov, 2024 - 02:31PM

Always good to catch up between meets to arrange a date and make plans. That’s the fun part…

I met someone recently and major red flag was he wouldn’t make firm plans and said he couldn’t due to his job.. I won’t be falling for that again.. Another friend just wants to check in then just disappears for months so he’s not getting seconds… 😂

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Richard5484 - 12 Nov, 2024 - 01:51PM

It’s a fine balance ensuring you don’t bring to over bearing to your new partner but enough to show both your interest and your understanding of their situation.

1671367 - 12 Nov, 2024 - 01:37PM

It varies. Some individuals I've encountered prefer to receive messages only at certain times, while others are fine with frequent communication. One person was surprised when I demonstrated how to hide WhatsApp conversations from anyone using their phone. The key is to communicate openly and reach an agreement on these preferences. It's perfectly fine to ask!

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ABronteSister - 12 Nov, 2024 - 11:46AM

I’m new to the site but even when I was on dating apps I would try to establish what my usual amounts of conversation would be and I also mention that I’m not needy! As a bisexual woman this is an issue with both men and women. On that note, does anyone know how I can reach out to women as I am unable to message them!? TIA x

ExoticOrchid - 21 Mar, 2024 - 01:08PM

H101 - 10:55PM

In my opinion, she sounds very immature, needy and demanding! Think yourself lucky that you've dodged a bullet here.

Is she very young? Surely a grown up doesn't delete someone just because a reply wasn't forthcoming immediately, especially when they have already met each other twice!

Everyone has lives outside of IE for goodness sake.

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Paula99 - 21 Mar, 2024 - 11:10AM

Give and take is needed here …we do have lives and some likes to message regularly and others don’t …it depends on the 2 people …

Try not to be too quick to ‘delete’ if you’re not getting a message straight away….plus it takes 2 to tango so just message him …talk about regular day stuff ..it builds the rapport between you ..
If his comms are consistently irregular… then you are not his priority so walk away ..plenty more fish 🎣

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1408586 - 21 Mar, 2024 - 10:03AM

If your comms styles aren’t a match it’s better she ended things when she did. It only because more obvious the further it goes on.

You say on your profile you act on your enthusiasms. Maybe to her it felt like you weren’t enthusiastic? And who wants that!!

Move on and good luck

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Harlequin101 - 21 Mar, 2024 - 08:54AM

My post was not clear. What I meant was can anyone understand why someone' would dump you because you had not sent a reply the same evening or before 9.45 the next morning? I am really puzzled

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Suzanne1983 - 21 Mar, 2024 - 01:34AM

It depends but from mine i get messagages pretty consistantly throughout the day and evening and i text back the same.

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Harlequin101 - 20 Mar, 2024 - 10:55PM

I recently had two dates with a delightful woman. We told each other how happy we were. I sent her a message the next morning and she replied at lunchtime before going out. At 8.30pm she sent a further short message. I couldn't reply that evening as I was with friends and my wife. When I sent a message the next morning at 9.45 I saw that one from her saying she got the message and was deleting my number. She has not read any subsequent messages. Can anyone explain this? Frequent messaging is nice but...