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Paula99 - 01 Jan, 2025 - 12:07PM

BerkshireBiker…

It’s ok just saying that …but most in here don’t have the emotional intelligence/maturity/logistics/time to actually carry it out….they just think they do 😕

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BerkshireBiker - 01 Jan, 2025 - 07:55AM

Once you have accepted and come to terms with your decision, it then comes down to carrying it out as efficiently and skilfully so as to protect and not hurt anyone. All that should remain are positive experiences and chapters in people’s journeys.

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Purple dreamer - 31 Dec, 2024 - 08:13AM

Life is to short for iffing and umming

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glassesman - 31 Dec, 2024 - 06:51AM

Go for it you only have one life . You really like the person you have met so do it otherwise you will be kicking yourself I had my first affair before IE I was seduced on a business trip we had a long affair but distance caused its end So I came on here have had two affairs from here but both ended not by me one due to death the other just ran its course so here I am again

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Delicious Chaos - 30 Dec, 2024 - 08:08PM

In my opinion if you are umming and rr-ing too much then there’s your answer, don’t do it . It’s either in you or it’s not.

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Here we go 693 - 30 Dec, 2024 - 09:37AM

I've just come out of a one year affair with someone I met off her. My only regret is that it ended, but we have become good friends and will remain that way.
It was quite a shock I have to say and I am currently going through some sort of grief as I come to terms with everything. I only say this, not for sympathy, but just to make you aware that it's a possibility. One I hadn't even considered until now. I am in no way ready to get back on the horse yet, but I haven't thrown the idea of another affair out of the window yet.

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Richard 170 - 30 Dec, 2024 - 09:03AM

Once you've taken the first step there's no place for iffing and umming!
Go for it as fortune favours the brave.
It may not work outas you

Purple dreamer - 30 Jan, 2024 - 11:26AM

Your only here once so don't put it off and regret what you could miss

Paula99 - 29 Jan, 2024 - 06:21AM

Some use the ONS option just because it’s what they want …quick and easy but others use it like a ‘get out clause’…especially those that can’t cope with the emotions that it dredges up ..they panic because they didn’t envisage all the ‘feelings’ that go with an affair….some have been out of the ‘dating scene ‘ for a long time that when it happens they can’t compartmentalise what’s going on and so the ‘pattern ‘ remains the same..
I know what you’re going to say that you can’t control your mind it’s that’s the way it’s wired or you have past experiences that fog it up and this is your ‘way out’


You do need to think of the OP in this and your actions create a reaction …the OP would think they had done something wrong so think carefully about the reasons why you are in this mindset..😁

1645560 - 28 Jan, 2024 - 11:51PM

When you are trapped in a loveless marriage it becomes a case of survival, there is no guilt for wanting some affection

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