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1322667 - 30 Sep, 2020 - 01:22PM

You can't know if it's for you or not until you try. And even if you decide to go ahead with it, you'll end up second guessing yourself during the build up to the meet. My suggestion would be to fix a date, with the expectation that you are only meeting for a coffee or drink. During the meet, you'll either feel the chemistry to go further, or not. Decide accordingly. The meet will also give you a realistic view of ease of logistics (alibis etc.), as well as if this is for you. In my experience, it took a while to get my head around the fact that I deserve what I'm looking for, and should not feel guilty for trying to be happy.

Classycougar - 30 Sep, 2020 - 01:01PM

@Zara1981
Lustdrug......love that word, so very appropriate!
And lust is the only L word allowed in any IE relationships i’ve had!!!

Zara1981 - 30 Sep, 2020 - 12:54PM

Honestly ... if it’s the right one , you wouldn’t be able to stop yourself ... the connection should be a lustdrug your addicted to!!
If it is ,Go get yourself a good alibi and ride the high!!

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Downonner69 - 30 Sep, 2020 - 11:59AM

You’ll never know unless you make the move, you might be glad you did

Classycougar - 30 Sep, 2020 - 11:35AM

Take it slowly......discuss your apprehensions with yr IE partner so they know how yr feeling. Honesty and trust are key in an IE so best start now.
You may find yr iE contact will make the decision for you!
But if you don’t put a toe in the water this time i guarantee you will be back here in a few months...or years.... for another attempt!😊

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1266637 - 30 Sep, 2020 - 11:29AM

How is it safer having an affair with someone from here , We all live in the real world , this is part of the real world here too same risks same randomness and same benefits What are the ie rules ? I’d love to know , and I’m not trying to start an argument ,

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1393321 - 30 Sep, 2020 - 10:50AM

This is a journey. Theres the right person but theres also the right time. There will always be a sense of going forward and backwards. However, its important to go with your own flow.

A good previous comment was, 'what's holding you back?' Give yourself time to feel your answer then you'll be in the best position to have no regrets.

The good thing about having an affair through this site is that it is safer than having an affair with a random from the real world. Here, we all know the rules and are here for our own reasons so we respect the need for discretion. If the affair experience turns out to not be for you then only you will know about it. If it turns out to be the most liberating thing you've done in years then you and everyone at home will be happier for it. And still only you will know. ... and your IE of course.

Good luck x

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1353301 - 30 Sep, 2020 - 10:26AM

Its perfectly natural to have theses feelings , I would say go with your feelings , what harm is there if you dont want to continue, I'm sure your partner will understand, we all had theses thoughts , the only thing I would say is that once you venture into an affair it becomes emotional so be prepared for that

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Jake Jekyll - 30 Sep, 2020 - 09:48AM

Whats holding you back? If you've come this far then something is wrong. It could be morality, fear of being found out or financial and reputational consequences.

Its natural to um and ah to start with. Eventually though you start to realise that if its not happening at home now then it probably never will.

Then you remember that life is short ...

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1408530 - 30 Sep, 2020 - 09:07AM

Short answer: you will not know unless you try.
My elaborated view: There are many of us (☺️) that never done this before, but perhaps always deep down knew that we want to expand our activities 🤣. Each individual is different, some can click on a first meet, others after few months or never. I think we should all go in our own pace and build the trust between the parties first. That’s my take on this anyway.

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