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Paula99 - 20 Oct, 2024 - 09:24PM

Painted Nails…

That’s exact what I did …I did attend the gym 3 times a week but I would swap my gym day to see my lover..

The point I am trying to make is you have to have a ‘real’ hobby/pastime to be able to do this on a regular basis ..
Shopping trips/ meeting friends can only last so long…and yes husbands do get more nosey as the time goes on ….like I said before ‘don’t underestimate your partner ‘

Paintednails - 20 Oct, 2024 - 08:56PM

Join a gym and "go to the gym" what I mean is....dress for the gym (your person should understand), have the work out, shower and go back home. This is what I did when I had a lover but didn't want my child to sense anything. I dressed for the gym, went to the gym, had my service done, showered and came home, what I normally do with the REAL gym.

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1704344 - 19 Oct, 2024 - 09:16PM

@LadyAmanda

Yes, men don’t really ask questions about shopping trips or meetings with friends beyond “did you have a good time”. My wife could be getting away with anything!

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1706135 - 19 Oct, 2024 - 08:57PM

Think it is easier for a female as we can go out for a so called shopping trip, meet with friends for lunch.

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1704344 - 19 Oct, 2024 - 07:51PM

This is why I chose a competitive sport as a hobby. Gives me the opportunity to be away from home on any given Sunday. I also go into the office every so often, which is a an early start and late finish - sometimes “out for a meal with colleagues after work”

It does pay to establish a reason to be out of the house on a fairly regular basis.

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Paula99 - 19 Oct, 2024 - 07:43PM

Ladyamanda…

Just starting a new hobby poses questions and you do need to attend your hobby at some time or other …underestimating your partner isn’t a good idea..😕

1706135 - 19 Oct, 2024 - 07:05PM

Or say you are wanting to start a new hobby, something for just you to enjoy!!!!!!

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Paula99 - 19 Oct, 2024 - 05:34PM

If you spent most of your life with your partner and had the same friends/interests then you might as well leave IE …you need to have lived separate lives ..had separate friends and separate hobbies for this to work..
You will discover it’s not easy to make the ‘necessary excuses’ to be away from your partner if you have lived in each others pockets …people that have already ‘lived ‘…apart don’t need to worry about making excuses to be away as they have been doing this for the duration of their partnership..💪

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Delicious Chaos - 19 Oct, 2024 - 11:24AM

Jeez come on, are you all on a ball and chain? How about just go out for the evening!
It’s actually quite sad how many people on here do everything with their spous, have the same friends etc. if that’s you then clearly having an affair is going to be tricky. If lunch time bunk ups and business meetings are your thing, fair play to you but me, I prefer to work when I’m at work and then have fun outside of that

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1710548 - 19 Oct, 2024 - 10:44AM

Work meeting is far more pragmatic than other options. You could say you need to go out for a dental emergency, but then you've got to go full Methos Actor and pretend to be in pain and discomfort for days before hand to sell it 😆