Comments (208)

Rustiqe plaisir - 05 Mar, 2021 - 12:54PM

@Delishas
Fully understand and agree with you on requirements not being met.
However, when I was working, I travelled to London a few times a month, staying overnight.
Had I approached you, would you have discounted me immediately because of my location before looking a little bit deeper into my message and profile?

1436059 - 05 Mar, 2021 - 12:10PM

I used to do the "polite no" but it was wasting a lot of my time. I'm busy and strictly ask for London based guy. If someone outside London contacts me, I consider them too stupid for my time and I IGNORE them. I think if you want a reply you should READ and respect what people are asking for in their profiles. Some people actually do say what they mean. READ profiles.

 2 members like this comment.

1386735 - 03 Mar, 2021 - 03:30PM

Kyllian,

Completely agreed women should just be up front and I certainly tell it as it is...it’s just a shame that the guys on here don’t follow in my footsteps.

There’s someone for everyone out there, even if you’re ginger...hold tight 😁

Kyllian - 03 Mar, 2021 - 03:23PM

Good manners cost nothing...and personally I prefer it when women just front up and tell it like it is. I do get REALLY annoyed when they don't read my profile, though. It states VERY clearly that I'm a ginger midget with very prominent front teeth, so when I send them a pictue password and I just get a load of abuse, it's REALLY hurtful. I think the main problem is that my profile text used to say 'Tall dark and handsome........really isn't everything' (but the last three words didn't show up on the title).

 2 members like this comment.

1320953 - 03 Mar, 2021 - 09:06AM

I hate the ghosting phenomenon taking place just lately on IE.
If I hear from someone not suitable for me eg distance, age, or hyst not my type, I always try to send a polite no thank you. It's easy to say... thank you so much for the message but I'm not interested in.... Its polite and no hardship at all.

 1 member likes this comment.

Anna.K - 03 Mar, 2021 - 12:06AM

It's a good question, I always say that I am looking for something different/else because I think the best thing is to be honest but in a way that never puts somebody down.

1429737 - 28 Feb, 2021 - 08:20PM

@YUD

As a first-timer your profile has proven to be the FAQ that this site really needs for us men. All those approaches that I would never have thought to use - but now available to guarantee ghosting and rejection. Bravo.

I'll not be in your inbox for sometime yet. ( ͡❛ ͜ʖ ͡❛)

 3 members like this comment.

1386735 - 28 Feb, 2021 - 07:33PM

tlove1279

Agreed, I’ve just come back after some time away, reworded my very long profile in some places, added a few new pics and blimey the inbox is overflowing. I’m not bragging at all, as I actually find it overwhelming and frustrating. I don’t have the time or energy to reply to each one, some don’t even warrant a reply IMO, but I would hate to think I’ve missed a gem of a man who just got lost in the inbox.

tlove1279 - 27 Feb, 2021 - 07:04AM

Most of the time when I login I get quite a few messages. Some of them are just chat starters like “Hi” or “What are you up to today”. Some of them are long copy and paste messages that they send to a lot of women. Some of them are clearly messages from men who spent the time to read your profile and explain what they liked and why they think it is a match. I always try to reply to the last type and politely say we are not a match. I usually ignore others. I am sure there are ones that I missed or got swamped and couldn’t reply. Sorry to those thoughtful men🙂 I always try to be polite and respectful but usually it is practically not possible to reply every single message.

 1 member likes this comment.

Rustiqe plaisir - 26 Feb, 2021 - 07:49PM

@Mary Contrary- just wondering, what if I don’t like chips?