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Delicious Chaos - 12 Jan, 2025 - 11:15AM

Just a thanks but you’re not for me, simple as that.
Sometimes I don’t even bother as in the past I have received some backlash for my honesty

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Clickable Connection - 12 Jan, 2025 - 09:11AM

Ms Cashmere - 21 Dec, 2024 - 10:35PM
Totally agree with your approach. It's friendly , and let's then know definitively that your not interested.

Paula99 - 22 Dec, 2024 - 12:40PM
If they don't take no as an answer, and carry on pestering, I think that's when a block is necessary

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Paula99 - 22 Dec, 2024 - 12:40PM

Ms Cashmere…

Sadly your words fall on deaf ears…there are some that refuse point blank to take No for an answer😕..

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Ms Cashmere - 21 Dec, 2024 - 10:35PM

Personally, I believe explaining yourself to someone else's spouse is absurd. A simple 'no, thank you' is sufficient. It's polite and to the point. Insecurities triggered by a 'no, thank you' is a they issue. Soliciting for feedback is fine providing it's sincere.

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Three Little Words - 21 Dec, 2024 - 04:21PM

I’ve noticed that I tend to get more ignored messages by women who are relatively near to me (like within 40 miles). Initiating a random chat with someone further away (because they liked a forum post or their profile is really different and interesting), I’m more likely to get a positive reply and the woman regretting I’m so far away.

Maybe people close by undergo more scrutiny, maybe I just live in the wrong part of the country!

Just curious that the closer the women are, the less likely they are to reply in a positive way.

Paula99 - 21 Dec, 2024 - 02:13PM

Ghosting is a word invented by those that live and die social media …it’s not a word born out of real life..
There are lots of ‘slang words’ that have made the Oxford/Collins dictionary’s..but ghosting is an online term..I used to think that slang words that made it to the normal dictionary’s were sort of privileged….unlike ghosting..
Some years ago the slang word ‘ gobshite’ made it to the OD and I didn’t think it was a word deserving really but I quickly realised it’s a real life term .. there are gobshites on and offline 😂

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Clickable Connection - 14 Dec, 2024 - 11:14AM

I can only speak for myself, but pushy, impatient people don’t rub off great. Neither do people who don’t seem to be able to take No for an answer.

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1494077 - 14 Dec, 2024 - 09:37PM

Paula99 - 14 Dec, 2024 - 08:44AM

Thanks 😊

Clickable Connection - 14 Dec, 2024 - 11:14AM

Three little words

In all honesty I don't mind the read messages, profile views and no message. If I think there is something there , I'll follow up in a few days , with polite hello and reminder. It has been known for women to get you many messages and so can be hard to remember who's who.

This approach has worked well for me - and most either reply , either with a "thanks but no thanks", or a "sorry for not replying, let's chat"

but you gotta approach in a subtle and gentle way - not "why haven't you replied" - that's not gonna get you anywhere.

I think giving women space and time to reply is key - you don't wanna look too desperate or eager LOL

Paula99 - 14 Dec, 2024 - 08:44AM

Welcome back ….TBH…😄