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Three Little Words - 13 Dec, 2024 - 01:04PM

@Paula99 - we men often see our messages are read, our profiles are visited and then nothing in reply to the message. If there was a website glitch, I think we’d see the message not being read at all.

The fact is that most of the time, we see activity from the woman we’ve contacted, but no response.

This is what causes some frustration for us, the fact that the messages and profiles have been seen but the woman can’t spare the breath or thumb work to reply.

This happens a lot.

Paula99 - 13 Dec, 2024 - 12:43PM

SlimishShyguy …

It’s not always the fault of the persons involved …sometimes the messages are that slow or they don’t appear at all has a factor …IEs system is not infallible and there are glitches..I have been accused of ghosting but half the time it’s because the message never arrived until the same guy looks again at your profile…bingo there are the unseen/unread messages and vice versa…ghosting is a side effect of online dating and should be taken with a pinch of salt……
There are some members that use this to their advantage and haven’t got a pair of bollox…contrary if you have swapped/not swapped pictures ….
Don’t let it get to you…we are not all shallow and we don’t have lists of guys on speed dial 😄

1680254 - 13 Dec, 2024 - 11:20AM

Hey I get ghosted a lot without ladies seeing my picture. Just wondering what ladies look for and if they do not at least try to get to know a guy before ghosting them ?

NeglectedLady - 13 Dec, 2024 - 06:43AM

I always respond, thank them for messaging, say they're not for me and wish them well with their search.

Just feel it's polite to do that and also closes off the conversation so they know where they stand.

Ghosting is a definite no-no for me.

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Paula99 - 11 Dec, 2024 - 05:29AM

Certain phrases do fit these subjects…but the IE admin do like to stir the pot …😁

‘ the lady doth protest ‘..fits all

TheGentleman247 - 10 Dec, 2024 - 09:06PM

If there’s no chemistry there’s no chemistry, I’d just be honest. A simple thanks but not thanks and wish them well. Not a fan of ghosting, it takes 2 mins to reply and not be disrespectful. And in a bar it wouldn’t be an issue, so shouldn’t be in here. And if they’re easily offended then that for me would be a red flag.

Goodguy104 - 10 Dec, 2024 - 04:02PM

I'm liking alot of friendly females on here,although I haven't joined as yet I'm sure I'm in for a great time

Crystal Ball - 09 Dec, 2024 - 05:34PM

I don't feel ghosting is the answer. If I feel that somebody isn't for me, I let them know by just saying 'you're not for me' or, 'you have a nice smile, but I donthink we're suited'. Something along those lines, and always with a good luck k in your search or best wishes in your search to finish it off. Plus a 😀, too.

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Three Little Words - 09 Dec, 2024 - 05:17PM

I used to get pretty upset at not getting responses to messages but now I’ve given up getting riled up.

People have differing reasons as to why they don’t reply. One woman told me that she didn’t want to upset me with a rejection so thought saying nothing would be the kinder of two evils. Another was working under the assumption that men paid to see messages so not answering was a way of saving me money!

At the end of the day, people have the choice as to how they interact and we as the respondents have to respect that. If there’s no reply, the other party clearly doesn’t want the conversation to carry on, so all you can do is accept it and walk on.

Paula99 - 09 Dec, 2024 - 05:17PM

Sandokan1990…

People don’t get offended …they choose to be offended

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