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Testingthewater321 - 09 Dec, 2024 - 05:11PM

No harm in being honest, if you are nice about it and people take offence that’s their issue
One’ persons attraction is another’s “not my type” that’s normal
A lot of people tell me I’m attractive but also many think I’m not. That’s life

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HugDealer - 09 Dec, 2024 - 04:56PM

Ghosting seems to be the easiest option although I would prefer a reason. It’s a very British thing to not say it as it is - polite but unhelpful !!

Sandokan1900 - 09 Dec, 2024 - 04:38PM

I think everyone get offended easily in these days😂😂😂

MagicMouse321 - 09 Dec, 2024 - 03:56PM

"Oh what a shame - no butterflies for me sadly, but good luck in your search."

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smartypants12345 - 09 Dec, 2024 - 02:21PM

If someone is offended by a polite, ‘no thanks’ then that’s not the fault or responsibility of the sender. If they are offended by ghosting, then it is :)

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marklondonengland - 09 Dec, 2024 - 12:04PM

I'm not sure why this is a problem. It's easy to say no thanks, without being blunt. Most of us have done this all our lives. You can be friendly and just say that it's not the right time or the chemistry isn't working... although maybe rejected men become more abusive quicker than rejected women?

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Clickable Connection - 09 Dec, 2024 - 10:13AM

Ok so first up ghosting is simply rude and not necessary, whatever the gender you are.

I mean if you're in a bar and someone chats you up , you don't ignore them - you respond to them in some way - same should apply here.

Ghosting is a basically a way of not needing to deliver bad news to someone else - it's a cowards way - grow some balls and just say how it is in a nice polite way. If they give you aggravation for it, then you have every right to ghost or block them.

It's never nice to receive a no thanks , but this is a dating site , and anyone here needs to expect a high level or rejection - it's the game , deal with it.

Sorry if that sounds harsh , but don't take it personally and move on. You don't need to be heartless, just nice but firm. If the other person can't deal with it , it's on them - it's not your fault.

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Tallandspicy - 09 Dec, 2024 - 09:17AM

I usually say “not for me, but good luck in your search “
Not to harsh, but to the point.
However, I’ve had very blunt responses to my profile, such as “I’ll pass thanks “ and “I’m hard up, not fed up” 😂😂

Frankie87x - 09 Dec, 2024 - 08:47AM

I’ll often say something like “thanks for sharing your pics, you look nice but sorry, it’s not a match for me. Good luck finding the right person” and most of the time it’s gracefully received

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1639646 - 18 Jan, 2024 - 10:31AM

Honesty is always the best way to deal with this.

We all need to feel an attraction, both physical and mental. The two don't always go together.

Essentially we are all here for fun so why make it more complicated than it is.

If your not "feeling it" then let them down gently and move on.