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1639646 - 18 Jan, 2024 - 10:31AM

Honesty is always the best way to deal with this.

We all need to feel an attraction, both physical and mental. The two don't always go together.

Essentially we are all here for fun so why make it more complicated than it is.

If your not "feeling it" then let them down gently and move on.

1639246 - 18 Jan, 2024 - 10:24AM

I think a “no thanks-you’re not my type” is infinitely better than ghosting. If I got 5 in a row I might start to get a bit grumpy in myself (and sneak off to the drinks cabinet)….but that’s for me to deal with….and I’ll always be polite back.

An even more sensitive way to approach it is to chat for a while more but then stop for another reason. (Probably easier for men to do as we don’t get flooded by messages quite as much)

I find that if I don’t want to write any more it’s for a number of combined reasons anyway (looks is normally quite low on the list as I can’t read tell from a photo anyway….it’s more about the interaction when we meet up).

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Be my pleasure - 18 Jan, 2024 - 06:14AM

I think that is the difference between the opposite sexes. Me for one always reply to a message, even if it’s a no thank you.

No one likes rejection, however when I have said no thank you to someone for what ever reason, I got a hurled abuse and blocked. No im not fickle and found that quite amusing as it shows the caliber of some men on here.

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1641463 - 17 Jan, 2024 - 10:29PM

I would be very happy to receive a no thanks and find that more considerate than ghosting

What hurts the most is someone saying sorry you’re not my type and then BLOCKING!

That’s just rude

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giggly hamster - 12 Jan, 2024 - 07:28PM

Well, firstly pride is at stake, so being told you're not their type is like being told you're ugly or fat or anything else.

Unlike days of old where you might have gone to a central london or wherever location for an evening's drinks, and seen them in the real, heard their voice etc, now all you have to go on is a picture and that's it.

If you have a type, and you only want that type then stick it on your profile.
I'm 5'7 and I understand when a woman says she wants tall 6'+ men only. I prefer petite women, However that doesn't stop me asking a lady who's profile makes me smile out on a date, as I know I'm not going to get into her knickers, and by the same token, should she accept, it's a meal out and hopefully a laugh and nice conversation and nothing more.

I'll give anyone a crack of the whip, I've met some stunning women who had rubbish personalities, and some girls who though not my expected go to, I'd love to have a night with them even if it's the once as we got on so well.

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Paula99 - 12 Jan, 2024 - 06:46PM

Some can’t take a polite no ..

You know who you are ?

The gin in your vermouth - 11 Jan, 2024 - 11:25PM

Just say it - say anything, but don't ghost. If someone has gone to the bother of reading your profile and sending you a message, they deserve a response. A simple "No thanks" is sufficient; if you can give any reason why, even better.

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ExoticOrchid - 05 Jan, 2024 - 09:14PM

I'm afraid men do the ghosting too.

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Huggy bear 66 - 05 Jan, 2024 - 06:42PM

It’s much better to receive a simple sorry your not for me
Than it is to be ghosted
I’m flabbergasted at how few people respond to a simple hello how are you message
So ladies please no more ghosting
Xxx

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thirdkind - 28 Dec, 2023 - 05:47PM

Could say you don’t have enough in common to make it work….sort of true regarding attractiveness 😂