Is ADHD a good excuse?
My best friends husband cheated on her last month and he is using his recent ADHD diagnosis as the reason he played away. I don’t know what advice to give her. I think this is a cop out excuse and he’s using the diagnosis to get away with it and get her back but the more I read about it I am coming around to being on his side more. Can anyone offer any wisdom or their own experiences on this? Feels like ADHD is all we hear about these days and it is really to blame mistakes on it rather than someone behaving like a complete a**ehole!!! I want to give her the right advice but I’m torn… help.
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Doubleohseven - 17 Sep, 2023 - 07:33PM
True. This is neither Mumsnet nor Sociology Journal. And yet, I want to express my wholehearted support for any theory (medical, biological or sociological) that absolves me of any responsibility for my less praiseworthy decisions, blaming them on some inescapable external factor.
Asymmetrically. Meaning, anything I did that earned me professional success, social standing and physical fitness, I would like to remain able to say: "That comes from my own decisions and my own actions! "
Whereas for my, shall we say, more questionable actions, I support any theory that would allow me to say: "ADHD/my genes/societal injustice made me do it!". Perhaps with a background of violin music and a voiceover mentioning a difficult childhood, or coming from an underprivileged background trapping me into inescapable multigenerational deviancy. Something like that.
I like being the hero in my own movie, but would love any theory that would let me play the victim card when it suits. Why? Don't know. It must be in my genes
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Pink Eiga - 14 Sep, 2023 - 09:08PM
A useful diagnosis would be one of couch potato as justification to be a log in bed 🪵😎
Toffee.macchiato4 - 14 Sep, 2023 - 08:58PM
Hmmm tricky
But judge not lest ye be judged or he/ she without sin cast the first or indeed any stone. By virtue of what this site is and the fact that am on here, I don’t feel in any position to comment
But I do wish this couple well and hope they can eventually work themselves out in a way that makes them both happy .
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1612345 - 14 Sep, 2023 - 08:42PM
Flirt forum, hunh? As some have already pointed out - this is a Mumsnet question. Absurd that it should be posed here.
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1529050 - 14 Sep, 2023 - 08:05PM
Becks and Paula, one reason I did not comment earlier is because I know nothing of the ins and outs of ADHD. I think it’s not great taking advice from armchair/internet doctors.
Also and I don’t know could this thread be a trigger for some ?
Lastly should we all use a diagnosis or illness as an excuse for being a cheat or having an affair 🤷🏻♀️
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1408586 - 14 Sep, 2023 - 07:49PM
I think Paula makes a good point. That this is meant to be for discussing random topics related to affairs/sex. Not speculating on people’s marriages or medical conditions!
I’m just hoping the post is fake and that no one will actually be feeding back any advice given 😳😂
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laugar164 - 14 Sep, 2023 - 07:31PM
Paula I'm in the posh seats with waitresses service.
Oo gin girl I thought you be mo a champagne lady
Forbidden-Fruit - 14 Sep, 2023 - 06:33PM
Hi FF
I agree with some of the comments on here with regards to the role of the moderator. This is not an appropriate question for this website, I have set my questions in the past and I can’t seem to my question for FF included?? 🤔 what am I doing wrong???
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Paula99 - 14 Sep, 2023 - 06:20PM
Laugar164..
I’ll have toffee flavour and a gin n tonic while your at the bar 😂
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