What do we really disclose?
Meeting a new person is always exciting. However most of us are meeting illicitly. What are your boundaries when disclosing personal details? Do we reveal our full names, places of work, give details about our family? What type of information are you willing to share? How much is too much?
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Paula99 - 19 Jan, 2025 - 07:56PM
In the grand scheme of things…people of this generation tend to share/overshare too much of their lives ….facebook ..instagram….twitter…etc etc …so this is just another platform..
Unfortunately these are the people we are dealing with on IE ….no surprises there ..🤔
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Cheryl Kim - 19 Jan, 2025 - 06:10PM
Rare Breed - 19 Jan, 2025 - 01:12PM
Same goes with people who show photos of their families and friends. Nothing about not having anything to hide, and everything about not having a sense of discretion and simple disregard for your spouse or your children.
Saying that, once an IE is established and a trusted partner in crime, more personal disclosure would come as natural. But never before, and should not be expected.
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Rare Breed - 19 Jan, 2025 - 01:12PM
Be careful people. I have had to warn a few men about sharing too much too soon. Don't get me wrong - it's not about divulging postcodes or anything like that. I had a lovely chat with someone a few years back and he was telling me all about his music hobby and sent me some links to look at from a few of his gigs. From that, links to his home address were splattered all over the internet. I did tell him. It's not the first time I have come across something like this. Exercise caution. My daughter in law once asked to look at a photo of someone that I was dating. I showed her and within minutes she had tracked him down online and guess what? She found out that he was married. So a lesson for me and I had to wriggle myself out of that one!!!
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Clickable Connection - 18 Jan, 2025 - 06:06PM
I tend to hold back until I get to know her better. Even then I tend to hold some things back
tattooed nurse - 18 Jan, 2025 - 05:07PM
I'm really bad at this - I have a huge tendancy to overshare - got me into trouble before!!!
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ItalianStrongBull - 16 Jan, 2025 - 04:16PM
Hello, who want to chat a little bit with an italian strong man living in IE?
1739420 - 16 Jan, 2025 - 04:11PM
Living in rural East Hampshire, I start off at the county level and nearest town/city. If I actually said closer than that, it would narrow me down to half a dozen dwellings!
Nearest town/city is enough to be able to arrange meets and I wouldnt expect to know more than this and wouldn't ask myself, I dont need to know.
Longer term as you build trust you obviously find out all kinds of secrets but I would never tell a soul, they are going to the grave with me!
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Unwoke! - 16 Jan, 2025 - 01:53PM
At first, the bare minimum. But as the relationship develops and mutual trust starts to build I'll share more.
I'd expect similar in return.
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1730254 - 16 Jan, 2025 - 12:20PM
I’m generally ok with revealing my first name, what info for a living in a fairly generic way and what my home situation is. Anything more than that comes with trust and “need to know”. Of course, you need something to talk about and you can do this in a way that doesn’t reveal too much of your pets details.
Chatting on WhatsApp can result in details appearing on Facebook/instagram, but this can be limited if you’re aware of the privacy controls on those apps.
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