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New-Lover - 23 Mar, 2025 - 11:35AM

Communication. Let them know what you want, when you are free for the odd chat and show your romantic side.

Make a plan with them of how often they hope to see you and see if you can fix it.

Kent Classy Gent 69 - 23 Mar, 2025 - 11:24AM

I always make it very clear I'm not interested in ONS.,the fact is the chemistry has to be there. If it's a first meet you need to be on the top of your game. You actually treat each meet like that. It has to be amazing or what's the point.

I've only not had a repeat meet twice which disappointing. I made it clear I was really looking for more. I'm still in regular touch with one of then though. So I did get a friendship so that's nice

justtheguynextdoor - 23 Mar, 2025 - 09:28AM

Just stay in the game. Expecting too much too soon will only lead to disappointment. It can take time and multiple dates to eventually find what you are looking for. Just try and enjoy the journey as much as possible!

SirrahNek - 24 Feb, 2025 - 11:38AM

Way back before I got married I got used to dates that went nowhere - I didn't expect every date to lead to a relationship. Sometimes you just have a nice evening, and then that's it - compatibility is not guaranteed. It takes all sorts.
One of my best dates ever (which led to serial one night stands with the same woman, ONS because we weren't committing to each other) was in a London bar where I hadn't clicked with my date, and she hadn't clicked with hers. So we swapped. And it shouldn't have worked because were very different with few shared interests. But we made each other laugh. And that, sometimes, is enough.

Paula99 - 18 Feb, 2025 - 02:37PM

Bruce 298 …

If that’s what your preferences are …I wouldn’t be concerned…at least you are straight up….most guys say they want more than a ONS but it rarely happens…..you might get a Brucey Boner and Dolly dealer if you play your cards right 🃏

1743108 - 18 Feb, 2025 - 08:26AM

Ok Batman👍

Bruce298 - 18 Feb, 2025 - 01:34AM

Am I going against the train in that I would prefer a one off meet and slide back into the darkness. Helps with discretion

Jellybean1980 - 14 Feb, 2025 - 08:21PM

For me, personally I would prefer an actual phone chat, voice note or even a video call before going out on that first meeting. I think it gives you a better idea of who you are actually meeting.

It goes without saying that it helps to be yourself from the start, have up to date images of yourself on your profile, and focus on that one person.

I am sorry you have been ghosted though as that is not nice to deal with especially when you have taken the time and effort to meet someone. I guess it depends what happened on the date and how it all played out?

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Vanilla770 - 14 Feb, 2025 - 06:38PM

Do you look like your photos? Honestly? Or is it a photo from 10+ years ago? Both sexes are guilty of this I imagine but there is no point trying to lure someone in with a false promise of your age/appearance. Happened to me!

Paula99 - 14 Feb, 2025 - 05:50PM

To quote the phrase ‘ most of the women have no idea what they want fantasists/tyre kickers ‘etc etc…not really sure that’s entirely true …tarring us with the same brush only has a negative impact and generally ruffles my feathers…but tit for tat isn’t my thing ….both sexes are guilty of a lot more…but regardless of what you think if there is an action you will get a reaction and some posts are designed to ‘poke the bear’ ( figure of speech)

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