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1704344 - 11 Oct, 2024 - 11:06PM

@Emma

Yes, I do read profiles and I do only write to women who are relevant (i.e. I’m in their age range, locality, and I mostly match their wishlist)

Like many men here, I put effort into my messages (we pay enough for the service and therefore make a commitment to use that money wisely). I, as well as other men, often see our messages read (yeah, we get read receipts) and profiles read, but no reply.

It’s incredibly hard for us to get that first message right. If the woman doesn’t see what she wants to see in the first message, it’s basically game over.

I have, however, had some really nice chats on the site so it’s not all bad. It’s just with women who are too far away 🤣

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1697270 - 11 Oct, 2024 - 10:38PM

I’d try mixing it up a little depending on the profile in question.

However, as @Tstopman says, you could craft the most beautiful, personal and succinct response, clearly tailored to that profile and be lucky to get a reply. I’ve definitely found since my last IE that there’s a serious lack of women on here, let alone genuine ones since my last IE that will actually reply.

Tstopman - 09 Oct, 2024 - 12:11PM

First rule should always be, if you wouldn’t walk up to a woman in a bar and say it to her face don’t say it on here.
I would also like to ask why so many women don’t respond to messages. If someone has clearly read your profile, they are in your preferred age range/locality has made an effort with an original message as so many say they want and meets your physical/interests criteria, do you not bother to reply or are you all bots designed to garner subscriptions?

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Enigma.. - 02 Oct, 2024 - 09:06AM

Part two…

F) He’s sent the wrong message to the wrong woman who immediately cottons onto the fact that the message wasn’t meant for her.
Instant block 🙄👋🏻🤷🏼‍♀️.

Enigma.. - 02 Oct, 2024 - 08:54AM

@Richard5484

I agree your profile is good.
Well thought out and certainly makes a refreshing change from those awful auto generated, short, boastful etc..l male profiles.

But perhaps you could consider lowering your lower age limit to… say 60?
This may introduce you to some other female members 😉😊.

@FromRoss

You are wrong about females on this site being “bombarded” with messages… chance would be a fine thing lol 😆.
Chances are that any male member is not getting a response because…
A) He hasn’t read her profile properly and sent a message that has left her thinking 🤔. What is he talking about!!
B) He is out with reasonable travelling distance.
C) He is out with her age limits.
D) His profile did not appeal to her.
E) He sent a VK or a gift which give, I should imagine, most female members the “Ick”. Instant delete.

Here’s the biggy…
F) He’s sent the wrong message to the wrong female member who immediately cottons onto the fact that the message was n

Paula99 - 02 Oct, 2024 - 05:22AM

For those men in their early 50.s the mortality rate for sperm is reduced by 54% than a guy aged 30 - 40..factor in stress levels..work and general health …for most it would be an immaculate conception 😁😁😁

1708136 - 01 Oct, 2024 - 11:08PM

I know the feeling ☹️

Just because - 01 Oct, 2024 - 09:57PM

Just be normal
Send normal messages
Like you would talk to a lady normally
Xx

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Blessed3127 - 01 Oct, 2024 - 07:59PM

Please don’t ask me if it is ok that you have not had a vasectomy within 5 minutes of chatting which one charmer did !

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EmnEm123 - 01 Oct, 2024 - 02:25PM

Richard5484

I just had a look at your profile and thought it was good.

As From Ross said, this can be a long game, don't get disheartened.

Also, be aware that there really isn't that many members to choose from, so it's probably not anything specific that you're doing wrong.

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