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TheBoredHousewife - 21 Sep, 2024 - 10:25AM

Bacchus111 - 19 Sep, 2024 - 08:17PM

I wonder how many of these women that you have set the challenge to have already done just that - gone out of their comfort zone? 🤔

I can quite comfortably say that I have. To the point that I can say I know the type of man that I seek, and the type of man who is able to fully appreciate what I have to offer him.

Paula99 - 20 Sep, 2024 - 04:18PM

Bacchus111….

Maybe you should do your own experiment at dating ‘out of the comfort zone ‘ …post your results..😉
While I do agree with parts of your post you are looking at with tunnel vision…if I make a post on here I am talking from experience…it’s always good to see both sides of the coin but what you will discover is ….there is always a grey area….Yes I have dated out of my comfort zone..💭

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EmnEm123 - 20 Sep, 2024 - 02:54PM

Bacchus111

You state that you have preferences.

Have you dated out of your comfort zone?

I'm a woman, I have never said 'see the real me, don't just look at my age or my weight '.

I understand that preferences work both ways.

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Bacchus111 - 19 Sep, 2024 - 08:17PM

I totally agree with you, we all have our preferences I certainly do. I guess what a lot of guys are railing against is what women have have been dealing with for ages.
Women have fought against objectification, the idea that they are more than just than their looks, every woman now says 'see the real me don't just look at my age or my weight'.
The problem is that if men now determine partners on breast size, slimness, long legs ect then we are cancelled or shouted down as misogynists but when men are objectified women tell us to 'just man up'
The challenge I put to all women who don't answer back after the dreaded photo exchange is to be brave and try this experiment. Deliberately date someone out of your comfort zone. I'd love to here how that experiment goes

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EmnEm123 - 19 Sep, 2024 - 02:30PM

DorsetStud

Well that would go without saying?

But I don't think that is what you're saying. You're not TDH and you're annoyed about women having that preference.

Do you not have preferences? And what does the 'they did you a massive favour ' comment mean?

1706211 - 18 Sep, 2024 - 05:54PM

Hi EmnEm123

Ah that didn't come across very well did it!

I was simply listing less attractive traits that any man, self included, could have that more than counters the attractiveness of TDH.

EmnEm123 - 18 Sep, 2024 - 12:47PM

DorsetStud

Why do you presume that TDH men are crap in bed and have no sense of humour?

It sounds like you're projecting!

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1695407 - 18 Sep, 2024 - 12:17PM

Rugbyguy

I always get the photo reveal in early. It can save an awful lot of time & disappointment from both sides.
My bugbear is getting ghosted rather than a simple, no thanks.

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Rugbyguy76 - 18 Sep, 2024 - 12:11PM

Its difficult - I've had a few really promising chats and then the big photo reveal comes and the 'not my type' message arrives. I get it and everybody has the right to choose who they want. it just sometimes can be frustrating but ultimately its the nature of the beast. But it is also hard not to take it personally, especially the first few. When you are several in like me it gets easier to take and you move on. Patience is the key I have found - its taken my 5 weeks to have a good connection that might lead somewhere.

1706211 - 18 Sep, 2024 - 10:10AM

It's all in the eyes of the beholder.

Relax guys and just be yourselves. If nothing comes of it then so be it. They did you a massive huge favour.

TDH but ignorant, crap in bed, no sense of humour or some other equally attractive trait? You want TDH, then go for it ladies.

I'm offering something much more exciting and so should all of us that aren't TDH :-)

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