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Tall Dark and Handsome (TDH)

Most of the lasses are searching for the elusive "Tall, Dark and Handsome (TDH) bloke".  Plus they want him to be humorous, rich, flashy cars, amazing holidays, brilliant shopping trips and lasting in bed until cows come home! I understand that if you want to dream and demand then might as well go for the sky. But are you missing the trick here? Are you discounting genuine gentlemen who might be average looking but are great human beings? They might not have six packs and"Arnold muscles", but they can be sensitive and humorous and probably great in bed as well?

So my quick question - if physical attributes are a mismatch + you want to keep the whole thing a secret affair then how much does those "physical features" matter to you?  Is your end goal not to have a great time whenever you meet? Each lass over here probably has around at least 20 lads chasing her and probably she can afford to be choosy ... but does it really work out? 

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Life is a beach - 14 Sep, 2024 - 10:31PM

Not sure about the question about flashy cars, expensive shopping trips and holidays with a TDH. Does anyone here ever get the chance to go on holidays with their IE? no, I didn't think so.
Someone who looks after themselves matters as much as their personality.
There has to be mutual attraction.
Intelligence and sensuality are what is the icing on the cake of my TDH IE.

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Testingthewater321 - 14 Sep, 2024 - 06:22PM

@paula99 that’s not what I said at all.🤦‍♂️ neither do I expect every woman to fancy me😂🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️


Paula99 - 14 Sep, 2024 - 03:14PM

Testingthewater321…

Most guys winge about not getting a reply but at least you have had some feedback..
3 weeks on IE is nothing ….if you want to find a lady then you have to put the work into it …you have the attitude that all women must like everyone…If you walked into a bar would go up to every woman in the place….chances are there will be only a couple of ladies you like…it rather works like that on here …we don’t fancy every guy 🤔

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Testingthewater321 - 14 Sep, 2024 - 09:03AM

Most woman here are delusional and constantly searching for something better. Just my honest opinion.
I’ve been here about three weeks, lots of chats, lots of ghosting, lots of “your photos are nice” and then you never hear back. And lots of “I’ve met someone” but yet they are still here everyday🤦‍♂️
I’ve met one genuine lady from here but unfortunately she wanted multiple partners which is not what I’m after.
So in summary I’d say there are lots of very decent people here but their expectations are crazy. If you are tall dark and handsome you can’t go wrong 😂

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boav91 - 14 Sep, 2024 - 06:43AM

So I guess I am not that tall, but some people like how I look and I am from an Asian background so dark works. Two out of three is not that bad! I am taking what I can get and working it : p

What i do bring is a self deprecating humour, enjoyment of life and I like to think emotional maturity that comes with age and therefore a little intelligence and wisdom. You only get to that if you go beyond the basic TDH. . The problem is whilst the people writing here may not specify, many do and are strict with this and I was rejected out of hand sooo many times before my current ie decided that it was worth meeting and well that worked out pretty well from there.

I really think we all have a type in our minds but connection and personality are at least, if not more important. If you want something to work more than a ONS. Many people say it is not just about looks but my initial experience here was different, fortunately there are some genuine people on here both male and female. The challenge was finding

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1698425 - 14 Sep, 2024 - 01:51AM

I prefer a personality before looks..
Obviously there has to be a spark between two people but laughter is the way forward

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Peaches1 - 13 Sep, 2024 - 10:59PM

There maybe people like that but there are also genuine women on here too. Sorry but most people are looking for humorous people as we have probably been stuck at home for the past decade with a right borrow who hardly speaks. Just find men very bitter on here when they are 20yrs your senior and cant respect age preferences.

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1697018 - 12 Sep, 2024 - 02:48PM

Mmm I am TDH but I still get told no when they see my pictures.
Everyone has their own idea of what they want.


Daniel57 - 12 Sep, 2024 - 02:33PM

It's a bit like Putin's Russia. No unfavourable comments allowed. So silly old IE - you're missing some quite valuable feedback...

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1695407 - 12 Sep, 2024 - 01:41PM

I’ve been using this site on & off for about 6 years. I leave it between 6-12 months or if an affair finishes before I come back. Unless a lot of women follow the same pattern as me, I see the same usernames, all with hidden profiles. I wonder as ladies don’t pay to be “active members” is it just an ego boost for them having guys chase them, with no intention of an affair?

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