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rarity23 - 27 Mar, 2025 - 05:53PM

I'd say don't meet someone who lives to close to you.
Treat it like a normal date.
Meet somewhere where hopefully you won't see anyone you know.
Always have a good excuse up your sleeve.

Oh and have fun 😊

Paula99 - 27 Mar, 2025 - 05:48PM

Jezuz Mary and Joseph….car parks on the middle of nowhere …is that safe ?

Come back Mipaulac… all is forgiven 🫤

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J20hn1 - 27 Mar, 2025 - 02:12PM

1. Safety. If you're a guy, let the lady choose somewhere to meet where she'll feel safe. Very important. If you're a gal, you choose the meet.
2. Discrete meets. Daytime hotels. There are specialist websites. No advertising here. Hotels are busiest at mealtimes so arrive when it's not busy. It's a dangerous game we play so just be sensible and don't attack each other until the door is locked. Remember to "Do not disturb" notice to discourage the house keeping staff. It's common sense stuff really. Stay safe.

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budgie817 - 27 Mar, 2025 - 12:56PM

Very much depends on both your circumstances, presumably neither of you can entertain at their place which makes things more difficult.
Times to meet will be obvious and depend on availability and distance.
Where may be dictated by money, hotel rooms paying in cash most likely.
Other than that it will be googling local 'lovers lane' type places where you will be able to be intimate but off the beaten track, look for local woods with a car park or car parks in the middle of nowhere.
Discretion and secrecy will depend on levels of care taken and avoiding possible avenues of discovery.

marklondonengland - 27 Mar, 2025 - 12:37PM

If you never go out to dinner, then suddenly you are dining out every night then it will look odd. Just look at your existing pattern, or create new habits... like you always go to the football match and have a pint after the game... now that gives you an entire afternoon anytime there is a game on... it's not difficult, just don't behave unusually.

Paula99 - 27 Mar, 2025 - 12:09PM

Some good posts here today but if you plan correctly before you decide to find an IE …there will be no need to keep secrets as we all know it’s easy to trip up ..
Ensure all of your hobbies/activities/sports are a regular thing …keeping it REAL …I have had my phone on totally privacy … no Google locations …no family app trackers …even my facebook page is private ..I never store the locations in my Sat Nav and everything is browsed on Google chrome …There is a guy I know he has 2 SIM cards and if he needs his wife to see his phone then he switches it over ….
If you are spotted then you must have a back up plan …THINK before you leave…these are the points to put in place even before you meet someone ….meet your IE in a public place ….hide in plain sight …👍

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ClassyLadySurrey - 27 Mar, 2025 - 11:18AM

I don’t give my phone number out till second date. Turn off location and I try and keep dates to where I’m supposed to be. IF I am spotted by someone I’ll have an excuse as I do have male friends..

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Hunkybc - 27 Mar, 2025 - 10:51AM

Having caught my own partner having an affair I found out by the following habits:

Spending more time away with work friends
Last used address in sat nav ( clear these)
Phone records ( which show hotels etc) - so have a burner phone or a burner phone app.
Constantly on phone.

Pussymilk - 27 Mar, 2025 - 10:47AM

Plan ahead on meeting up. Turn off any trackers chat about best time to chat to arrange meet ups. If you send pictures or messages then make sure you delete them. Try to meet up away from home town so that you don’t get caught out by mates. But good luck

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SirrahNek - 27 Mar, 2025 - 10:27AM

And turn your phone off! Quite apart from the fact that fiddling with your phone all the time isn’t attractive, you really don’t want to be tracked! And if your car has a tracker or any other kind of smarts, maybe leave it at home or rent one (or have a really good reason for why it’s parked outside Le Nouvelle Coq restaurant in Illicitencounterborough.). Ditto if your keys have an AirTag on them, take the AirTag off. And check your pockets!

Oh, and don’t wear a strong perfume or aftershave which might rub off and cause awkward questions for your partner.

But, other than that, what Funguy77 said.