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Adventure6941 - 10 Dec, 2024 - 11:47AM

Hi all, happily married but wanting to experiment more. Finding things hard to chat then meet with someone. Is it always this hard??

Moonstone8727 - 05 Dec, 2024 - 11:59PM

In my time on here, and I'm somewhat of a novice, it hasn't got easier....I've never had an affair and I'm actually wondering if it's more difficult because of that! I've had lots of chats but they don't seem to pan out...
I think it's just going to take time and perseverance, and maybe luck to find a person that you can click with.
Obviously the site is successful as a lot of people use it repeatedly because they've found what they wanted and have enjoyed the experience!
I wish you luck on your journey...

HugDealer - 26 Nov, 2024 - 09:13AM

Love your response Return to Forever. I have been with my partner for 27 years and never been with anyone else. I am here to find what's missing.

I would say that if you have a feeling of guilt then you need to address that before you embark on this journey because otherwise the guilt will eat away at you.

1725148 - 20 Nov, 2024 - 03:21PM

No, it’s always gonna be there..foreverrrrrrrrrrrrrrr!!

Gratch - 20 Nov, 2024 - 11:49AM

I think a lot of these answers are good, as you rightly say, make peace with yourself and what you are doing or about to do and embrace it, if then you find it doesn't get easier then maybe this isn't for you, I try not to dwell on the word "cheating" and much prefer perfidious, but whichever way you want to look at it, as long as you have the right mindset and you can hold sway then yes it does get easier

1717658 - 18 Nov, 2024 - 08:57PM

Get your mindset right…..seriously…it’s all about your point of view.

If you persist (and this is no criticism by the way….a lot of people do this) in thinking that this is all about “cheating”, “back stabbing” “harming”, “lying” etc then those are all massively negative concepts and it’ll be a long day at the office so to speak.

If on the other hand you approach it with the mindset that actually something in your life is missing and you want to proactively do something about it within your own gift whilst not harming your OH/partner etc then that is a much more positive approach and might lead to better outcomes for you and those you have an affair with?

Just my 2p

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ExoticOrchid - 17 Nov, 2024 - 11:04AM

Life is a beach - 10:52AM

If you say so ... whatever! 🤷🏻‍♀️

Life is a beach - 17 Nov, 2024 - 10:52AM

Exotic Orchid,
He is always checking my phone with me at around Christmas time as I show him Christmas messages from others as I said in my other posts. Notifications off is a must for me!
To answer the post, it gets a little easier to think of excuses, just keep them close to your real life and don't take any risks, nor put your IE at risk
Be careful and enjoy yourselves!

ExoticOrchid - 17 Nov, 2024 - 06:39AM

"My husband is always checking my phone"

Not much independence and empowerment then!!! 🤷🏻‍♀️

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Life is a beach - 16 Nov, 2024 - 11:18PM

I posted here a year ago, I was still a little green to this.
Yes, you start learning more, you get more creative with your excuses. You start learning on how to best avoid risks.
Stupidly enough after posting on this thread I nearly got caught, I forgot to turn my notifications off at Christmas 🤦🏻‍♀️. My husband is always checking my phone. Luckily I managed it!
Don't get complacent don't take any unnecessary risks!
In answer to the question, it doesn't get easier but you get better with your excuses 😉.
Don't take any risks!