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budgie817 - 31 Mar, 2025 - 05:45PM

That is a question to ask your IE and agree on level of contact you both want.

Some people will want contact on fixed times/days as the 'coast is clear' and that is part of the discretion require to avoid discovery.

On frequency and timing I would suggest in the build up to a meetup it should increase to ramp up the sexual tension about to be relieved.

Here we go 693 - 31 Mar, 2025 - 01:15PM

Another one of those common sense things surely.
Agree on when messaging in suitable. Obviously having your phone beeping and whirring during the evening while with your spouse is very hazardous. Work may be awkward too, I used to work on an environment where phones where banned for security.
I agree with KE, wait for a reply before sending further messages.

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Sexy99999 - 26 Mar, 2025 - 09:05PM

As much as you want

KerryElizabeth - 25 Mar, 2025 - 07:38AM

As often as it's safe for the both of you to manage. It's difficult when your phone can't be used at work, and possible issues when at home. I have used female names for men in my contact list, and always clear the conversations. Communication is important, but I'd suggest not bombarding your IE with x number of messages within a short space of time. Allow a reply to be sent. Always check when it is best to send messages. A friend of mine received a drunk text at 2am from a woman he's seeing, his phone beeped, and his partner wanted to know who it was. She thought there was a family emergency! It's great getting messages between meets, so just see what works best with your circumstances.

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Enigma.. - 24 Mar, 2025 - 10:52AM

@rarity123

Unfortunately not all of us have access to our mobile phones during working hours.
But then evenings can prove difficult for others due to family etc… being around.
For “security” reasons my phone was in my handbag in a locked locker and I could only access it during my lunch hour.
Some male members seem to take exception to the fact that I couldn’t reply straight away, even though I had explained my work situation to them, and got it into their heads that I wasn’t interested 🤷🏼‍♀️🙄.
My phone is not an extension of my arm and, unlike some others, I’m not sitting desperately waiting for the next message, txt, phone call etc… lol 🤣😉.

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rarity23 - 24 Mar, 2025 - 08:47AM

I would say as much as possible, without causing issues at home, communicating is key and without being in regular touch with each other, what is the point in having an affair !

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Funguy77 - 23 Mar, 2025 - 03:20PM

No right answer depends on both of you BUT messaging can spice things up just remember to be sensible about what time your sending messages at as more than likely there’s family members needing attention too

justtheguynextdoor - 23 Mar, 2025 - 09:55AM

Ask the person you are messaging what they expect and what they are comfortable with - simple as that. Their is no one size fits all answer ☺️

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Babs willow - 22 Mar, 2025 - 10:34PM

See how it goes should be lots of fun and laughter at first x

Zayn71 - 21 Mar, 2025 - 01:04PM

We message everyday .. sexy simmering until the next meet