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Three Little Words - 21 Dec, 2024 - 04:21PM

I’ve noticed that I tend to get more ignored messages by women who are relatively near to me (like within 40 miles). Initiating a random chat with someone further away (because they liked a forum post or their profile is really different and interesting), I’m more likely to get a positive reply and the woman regretting I’m so far away.

Maybe people close by undergo more scrutiny, maybe I just live in the wrong part of the country!

Just curious that the closer the women are, the less likely they are to reply in a positive way.

Paula99 - 21 Dec, 2024 - 02:13PM

Ghosting is a word invented by those that live and die social media …it’s not a word born out of real life..
There are lots of ‘slang words’ that have made the Oxford/Collins dictionary’s..but ghosting is an online term..I used to think that slang words that made it to the normal dictionary’s were sort of privileged….unlike ghosting..
Some years ago the slang word ‘ gobshite’ made it to the OD and I didn’t think it was a word deserving really but I quickly realised it’s a real life term .. there are gobshites on and offline 😂

TheBoredHousewife - 14 Dec, 2024 - 09:40PM

Clickable Connection - 14 Dec, 2024 - 11:14AM

I can only speak for myself, but pushy, impatient people don’t rub off great. Neither do people who don’t seem to be able to take No for an answer.

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TheBoredHousewife - 14 Dec, 2024 - 09:37PM

Paula99 - 14 Dec, 2024 - 08:44AM

Thanks 😊

Clickable Connection - 14 Dec, 2024 - 11:14AM

Three little words

In all honesty I don't mind the read messages, profile views and no message. If I think there is something there , I'll follow up in a few days , with polite hello and reminder. It has been known for women to get you many messages and so can be hard to remember who's who.

This approach has worked well for me - and most either reply , either with a "thanks but no thanks", or a "sorry for not replying, let's chat"

but you gotta approach in a subtle and gentle way - not "why haven't you replied" - that's not gonna get you anywhere.

I think giving women space and time to reply is key - you don't wanna look too desperate or eager LOL

Paula99 - 14 Dec, 2024 - 08:44AM

Welcome back ….TBH…😄

TheBoredHousewife - 13 Dec, 2024 - 11:45PM

Paula99 - 09 Dec, 2024 - 05:17PM

Unfortunately there are small people everywhere.

Three Little Words - 13 Dec, 2024 - 01:39PM

@Paula99. I guess that can happen, but I think most of the time it’s just women are blanking men (and I’m sure the converse happens too). Being a digital platform, it’s easy to ignore something you don’t want because something better will come along, it’s all too easy to disassociate yourself from people on the internet.

But i shrug these situations off. You have to, otherwise you end up with mental health problems.

Paula99 - 13 Dec, 2024 - 01:17PM

Three little words …

I understand where you are coming from and you are correct in some part …but this has happened to me …no message/no reply from Admin …the guy disappeared… then 2 months later he messages me to ask why I ghosted him …as if by magic there is my message to him and there is his reply ….explain that one

Three Little Words - 13 Dec, 2024 - 01:04PM

@Paula99 - we men often see our messages are read, our profiles are visited and then nothing in reply to the message. If there was a website glitch, I think we’d see the message not being read at all.

The fact is that most of the time, we see activity from the woman we’ve contacted, but no response.

This is what causes some frustration for us, the fact that the messages and profiles have been seen but the woman can’t spare the breath or thumb work to reply.

This happens a lot.