Comments (44)

CPF0000 - 01 Nov, 2024 - 07:16PM

Be differnt

Tell the lady she deserves two boxes of chocolates, not one

She will be intriguied with this approach and ask why ?

Just respond "one box for each hip"

Girls love chocalates and cake and shoes

1704344 - 01 Nov, 2024 - 03:15PM

@Clickable Connections

Great points there. And also try to ask relevant questions to let your recipient know you’re interested in them and want to learn more about things they obviously think is important. If an initial message doesn’t have anything in there that can easily be replied to, then you may not get a reply.

Clickable Connection - 01 Nov, 2024 - 01:43PM

There really is no formula for these things , but a few common sense things

1. Read the profile
2. Within your message make it clear you have read her profile - without actually saying it. Eg maybe reference something she's mentioned, or a common interest etc
3. Don't copy and paste your profile
4. Make it about her, not you
5. Keep clear of any sexual chat , unless she's indicated it on her profile
6. Just be you

Also no matter how much effort you've put in , don't expect a reply - chances are , your message is going to be one of many - it is what it is.

Oh - and don't follow up with a needy "why haven't I received a reply".I'd imagine this is a huge turn off. Give the ladies some space lads

bear919 - 23 Oct, 2024 - 11:09PM

JUST GO FOR IT SAY WHAT ON YOU MIND

CPF0000 - 13 Oct, 2024 - 07:48PM

Ask then what version of curvaceous are they adopting 🤣🤣🤣🤣

Paula99 - 12 Oct, 2024 - 07:02AM

I do reply to messages in most cases..

I tend to get a note about history which is my favourite subject next to music of which I encourage….the use of ‘chat up’ lines went out with dinosaurs but sometimes it does get you to first base..

FromRoss..

There are lots of reasons why ‘women’ don’t reply and I am only speaking for myself…the massive stumbling block is LOGISTICS for me …distance affairs cut down on the time you are together which is precious…
Not reading my profile is my no 2 hate…I always always read others profiles
My no 3 hate is ….expectations…if you want me to mince around wearing short dresses and stiletos and sit on your arm looking pretty while you ‘spoil’ me then I am sorry but it won’t work…and yes I have read those type of profiles

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1704344 - 11 Oct, 2024 - 11:06PM

@Emma

Yes, I do read profiles and I do only write to women who are relevant (i.e. I’m in their age range, locality, and I mostly match their wishlist)

Like many men here, I put effort into my messages (we pay enough for the service and therefore make a commitment to use that money wisely). I, as well as other men, often see our messages read (yeah, we get read receipts) and profiles read, but no reply.

It’s incredibly hard for us to get that first message right. If the woman doesn’t see what she wants to see in the first message, it’s basically game over.

I have, however, had some really nice chats on the site so it’s not all bad. It’s just with women who are too far away 🤣

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1697270 - 11 Oct, 2024 - 10:38PM

I’d try mixing it up a little depending on the profile in question.

However, as @Tstopman says, you could craft the most beautiful, personal and succinct response, clearly tailored to that profile and be lucky to get a reply. I’ve definitely found since my last IE that there’s a serious lack of women on here, let alone genuine ones since my last IE that will actually reply.

Tstopman - 09 Oct, 2024 - 12:11PM

First rule should always be, if you wouldn’t walk up to a woman in a bar and say it to her face don’t say it on here.
I would also like to ask why so many women don’t respond to messages. If someone has clearly read your profile, they are in your preferred age range/locality has made an effort with an original message as so many say they want and meets your physical/interests criteria, do you not bother to reply or are you all bots designed to garner subscriptions?

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Enigma.. - 02 Oct, 2024 - 09:06AM

Part two…

F) He’s sent the wrong message to the wrong woman who immediately cottons onto the fact that the message wasn’t meant for her.
Instant block 🙄👋🏻🤷🏼‍♀️.