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Kent Classy Gent 69 - 19 Mar, 2025 - 09:31PM

I think we need to read between the lines. If we stop getting any responses let's be brutally honest: there is no interest .

This site is tough for a man. Woman have the power of choice of course. Don't get too upset with the process. Accept it and move on.

On my experience even if you have a great profile and put a lot of effort into messages you still have a limit chance of a response. The older you are the harder it is

Don't bother messaging someone if they are more than hour away in the car or if you are not in their age range. Just be realistic

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Toffee.macchiato4 - 19 Mar, 2025 - 07:55PM

My 2 pence
Always read the profile
Tailor your message to what’s in the profile

Not too long and less about you more about why them 🙂

Well I think 🤔 good luck 🤞 here

Cheryl Kim - 19 Mar, 2025 - 05:09PM

Paula99 - 19 Mar, 2025 - 04:05PM

All the spammers…..Paula99 wants you 😜🤣

Hi
Hi
Hi
Hi 🤣

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rarity23 - 19 Mar, 2025 - 05:01PM

I just look at who is active within a week, and message any profiles that appeal to me.

I never cut and paste, and probably only send around 3 and wait a couple of days, before repeating the process of no response.

I never follow it up with a second message if no response from the first, if they view you back and don't respond then they aren't interested !!

Hope this helps and good luck !

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Paula99 - 19 Mar, 2025 - 04:05PM

The key thing is here….you don’t stop persuing … unless he /she tells you to Fuck Off… 😂

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budgie817 - 19 Mar, 2025 - 02:16PM

The effort you should make is to read and digest someone’s profile and any response you make should be made with what is says in mind. A relevant message that’s clearly been thought about is worth a hundred crap cut and pastes. Anything les is disrespectful really, sane goes for honest and openness.
If they don’t respond then they may be inactive, have found someone already, or not interested, further messaging won’t change that, ask for feedback they may help guide you going forwards.
Good luck.

KerryElizabeth - 19 Mar, 2025 - 01:52PM

I will respond to all messages, but it takes me a while to get through them all as I get quite a few, as I want to give everyone a fair chance.
If I feel the conversation isn't leading anywhere, then I will say so. It isn't nice to be ghosted so I'd prefer to be upfront. Some effort is required of course, as it's good to have dialogue to respond to. Just don't keep messaging every couple of days.
I'd now give a guy up to 4 weeks to respond, and if he doesn't I'd delete messages as this to me indicates he's not interested.
Having said that, things crop up. An injury I sustained made it difficult to type so my response rate up until recently was exceedingly slow...

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Caroline Red - 07 Mar, 2025 - 09:20PM

i don't think men appreciate just how many messages we get so you have to stand out and don't expect a reply to a message you've copied and pasted or something totally bland. personally if a man has read my profile and says something to show me that i always reply

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MadameDeMaintenon - 07 Mar, 2025 - 07:50PM

@SirrahNek this is precisely why I have it in my profile that I want to receive an effort in an initial message - affairs take effort, save the laziness for your spouse ;)

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SirrahNek - 07 Mar, 2025 - 05:01PM

@MadameDeMaintenon - I suppose 'had a good day', whilst displaying little to no effort, is a step up from Beavis 'n' Butthead's "Hey Behbeh, snh snh". Ugh. Shudder.
I mean, I'm a bloke (and hence, by stereotype, supposed to have the morals of an alleycat), but even I recoil from a low effort message, a VK or a gift (those virtual gifts! I have cufflinks - I'm not sure I need a picture of them as well!)

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