Comments (143)

ThatGoodLife - 15 May, 2020 - 01:56PM

Original poster: don’t worry you have a couple months to build up your confidence for a meet.


It will be months before we will be able to meet new people safely.

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tara405 - 15 May, 2020 - 01:45PM

No as u can meet now

All things and wonderful - 15 May, 2020 - 01:45PM

Thanks guys, looks like name "Hornyfucker3 "
Has been changed, not the most attractive name especially on this site !

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1117169 - 15 May, 2020 - 01:44PM

Whether you get cold feet or not is up to you and how you feel at the time, and is nobody else's problem. It sounds more like you are having second thoughts about the whole idea.

If that is the case, It would be far better for everyone concerned if you came off this site and didn't waste peoples time or raise their expectations.

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tea_coffee_me_ - 15 May, 2020 - 01:25PM

Is this the place you should be?

Many people do mess up a first meeting.
Many go really really well however at least one party declines to have a second meeting.

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Railwayman21 - 15 May, 2020 - 01:07PM

Yes don’t we all ? It’s all about breaking the ice up front

AAGilfan - 15 May, 2020 - 12:54PM

Otherwise I suggest you follow the wise advice of Exotic Orchid. All good suggestions from her

DocRob - 15 May, 2020 - 12:44PM

Not so much cold feet, but nervousness of the unknown is what I experience on a first meet (when they happen). Careful planning is key. I thought I’d done that but still been stood up on one first meet, only to later find that there are two places called Newcastle. Embarrassed, doesn’t even start to express how I felt!

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There and back - 15 May, 2020 - 12:29PM

Don't worry about messing it up or getting caught. Just deal with it as if you are in a social environment and someone talks to you. The connection is either there or it isn't......two people meeting for the first time whether you plan or not plan the meet....treat it like that...........

And for those that say they don't have a type..........they always have a type.....because they always send a reply when they've met you and state "you're not my type".

Be honest about who you are, what yo want and why you are there, and if the connection is there...let the sparks fly................

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AAGilfan - 15 May, 2020 - 12:08PM

Well if you do really have cold feet about it then just be open and honest with the other party and be definite about cancelling the meet. I have seen a number of comments, both in the letters and on profiles where it is clear that the person has made the effort to meet and turned up only for the other party to be a "no show". That, to me, is terrible and truly selfish behaviour because remember that the other party also has had to find a window and create a space in order to arrange the meet, and will have gone to effort (travel as well as appearance which may well include putting on make up, perfume/cologne and clothes to meet that one would not normally be wearing at home in normal circumstances but one wants to make an impression - this does just add to the stress of meeting someone you don't know as you don't want to raise suspicions at home of doing something different). So if you are going to let someone down, do make sure you effect appropriate communication at the earliest opportunity

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