Is one IE enough?
How many on here have actually been completely monogamous with their IE?
How many have cheated (if that's a thing) on their IE with another (or multiple) IE?
Were you honest with your IE?
And how many still have any sort of sexual relationship with their spouse?
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gemini2310 - 23 May, 2020 - 06:38PM
Who knows when an IE is cheating on there IE they can tell each other what they want to hear and at the end of the day they can do what they want there not even ours only for a short time when both can meet I like all exclusive but that's just me each to there own I say
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MatureWorcsBBW - 23 May, 2020 - 05:48PM
Well, I'm certainly not going to turn down sex with my partner. But I won't be shouting it from the rooftops for everyone to know, except to you lovely people. Hope you can keep it a secret. 😉😂
I've got absolutely no intention of promising to only meet one gentleman for intimacy especially if it's only possible to meet that person three times a year.
To me, it's pointless to say that you can cheat on your IE. You're not in a traditional committed relationship. I don't understand why you would expect fidelity. But I understand why you might like the idea of it, one man, only needing to be with you. The reality is usually very different, I think.
No man on here has asked me to be faithful to him. I couldn't promise that I would be. And if I did, how easy would it be to break that promise and he would never know.
Sometimes I think that the less we know, the less we worry about.
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1386735 - 23 May, 2020 - 03:57PM
Zyphod most men are interested in an elaborate wank
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Songbird478 - 23 May, 2020 - 03:47PM
tea_coffee_me_ - 23 May, 2020 - 02:59PM
Some great insight there thank you. Much appreciated as it’s an issue I grapple with in my head!
1100888 - 23 May, 2020 - 03:35PM
It depends if to your IE is only for sexual gratification as Ben Elton once put it. An elaborate wank.
Or are you in it for a relationship.
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Dancing In The Rain - 23 May, 2020 - 03:27PM
Always been honest with my IE, and never "cheated" on her either because, for me, having an emotional and physical relationship with one person is all I want.. sadly it's not with my wife.
Would I mind if she did? I think as long as I was her focus for the time we're together I'm ok. Who am I to clip the wings of a phoenix . But stay safe always.
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1386447 - 23 May, 2020 - 03:09PM
Well, my IE suggested we ask a third to join us. So are we being monogamous to each other, or more unfaithful........we will both be there so hardly a secret :)
pkash78 - 23 May, 2020 - 03:03PM
it can’t be as clear as black and white..
It certainly a mixture of both.
You may have a marriage but you want something on the side that completes the void .. then if that IE is not enough .. or not giving you what you want.. or you discover that you are still not fully satisfied or not capturing you fully, then may you can find someone else.
It is all about honesty though.. you have to be open and say and communicate .. and it may be no just sex you are talking about .. it may one need a friend.. a true listener .. or someone to share an experience with . a hobby..
A good old friend.. it doesn’t have to come with benefits.. it will be good if it did.. but from experience an all rounded human with all qualities fitted is a rare breed .. and if they are abundant.. we wouldn’t all be here trying to find the extra bit that is missing..
tea_coffee_me_ - 23 May, 2020 - 02:59PM
"Songbird478 - When does an IE become your IE? When you’ve chatted for X amount of days? When you’ve met? When you’ve had sex?"
That is a really good question.
Chatting - no
Meeting - no, for me the % that go on to a 2nd meetinf is VERY LOW
1st Private meeting - I would say no, as often one or both parties feel they are not compatible.
Possibly when you reach about 5 private meetings can you have that type of conversation as until that point you have no idea about adult compatibility, how often you can really see each other. If the structure of the meetings are working for you both...
As for the other comments about being safe, protection should ALWAYS be used, as yes a lot of the older age groups are catching more things as it is a different way of life to the younger days!
ALSO IF you are able to have access to regular testing, DO SO!
The NHS etc has made it more and more difficult, however for your own piece of mind and for any innocent party, if you can find a way - do it!!
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