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1413266 - 06 Apr, 2021 - 01:02PM

@felicityflaws
You are not alone in that sort of experience. I had an affair a few yrs ago where she was soooo keen to meet. Then, after a lovely day out with lots of hand holding, kissing, cuddles etc, we parted and made promises to meet again asap. I thought it was all going swimmingly but i never saw her again. She did keep in contact for a time afterward but when pressed to meet, i got fobbed off.
As others have said, move on if the other doesn't give it back to you. We are here for relief from what we have, lets not duplicate what we are trying to find relief from..... indifference, coldness, not listening, blah, blah blah. Life gets shorter each day.
Enjoy the sunshine people. 😁

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ExoticOrchid - 06 Apr, 2021 - 10:41AM

Sportster1200L - 06 Apr, 2021 - 09:58AM

I'm afraid your views are based on just "your" very narrow personal experience ... I'm with YUD in what she says.

Also, IE is a broadchurch ... each to their own ... just don't confuse one's own case with the majority's.

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1117169 - 06 Apr, 2021 - 09:58AM

@ YUD

Yes it looks like it unfortunately.

Its about time ladies took the initiative. Maybe you are an exception.

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Purple dreamer - 06 Apr, 2021 - 08:24AM

We all have other lives , but would hope the person would want to keep in touch.
Its nice to get that random message just to know you are being thought of, communication is a two way process but if it doesn't work both ways then maybe it's time to move on

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1386735 - 06 Apr, 2021 - 08:21AM

Sportster

Are you living in some sort of time warp? What are you talking about?

In my experience that is so not the case,

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1117169 - 06 Apr, 2021 - 07:07AM

@YUD

In our society its still the men who are expected to initiate the first contact and therefore usually do so and usually women who control if and how things evolve and the pace of the relationship after that.

It would be very refreshing if it were not like this.

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1386735 - 05 Apr, 2021 - 05:40PM

FelicityFlaws
Sorry to hear that, but that is very common on here with the men folk I’m afraid. If you are doing all the initiating then he’s just not into you, and he doesn’t have the balls to tell you.
Move on

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1446199 - 04 Apr, 2021 - 05:35PM

After the initial burst, like a kid in a sweet shop It should just fall into place,
To where it needs to be if you having a trusting and understanding partner,

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ExoticOrchid - 04 Apr, 2021 - 12:48PM

lisa3232 - 04 Apr, 2021 - 12:18PM
lisa3232 - 04 Apr, 2021 - 12:25PM

Makes total sense to me but I suppose each to their own.
There's needy and there's needy ... what you describe is in the former ... it's not unreasonable.

I've encountered daily phone and WhatsApp/kik messages to emails every few days and everything in between ... it's all down to individual circumstances ... I don't expect hourly messages but it's always nice to know you're being thought of/missed.

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lisa3232 - 04 Apr, 2021 - 12:25PM

Reminds me of that book/ phrase
"He's just not that into you"
Trust me, if he's into you he'll message and regularly. As someone else commented, it takes no time at all to send a little message 'thinking of you' if longer contacts not possible.
We do everything on our phones ? Shopping, checking weather forecasts, setting alarms reminders. There is no reason, as long as its safe, to not send a little something most days.
There's nothing worse that not having your messages read for a day or 2 then they pop up gushing and being over attentive like it's compensation? I think that's akin to 'breadcrumbing' and gets the elbow from me.
Now I'm going to duck in case I'm called needy or whatever.
Yes, I have needs, physical and emotional and that's why I am here!

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