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Tallandspicy - 19 Nov, 2024 - 12:23PM

I've chatted to the fairer sex on "normal" dating sites where no cloak and dagger behaviour is necessary. Even then, the enormous range of response is staggering! From " please stop messaging as i'd like some peace"... to "i've not heard from you for so long, you must have been to the moon and back!"
Once a day suits me......minimum! After all, meeting up is the real goal....then you can talk as much as you like!

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blueeyed_man - 19 Nov, 2024 - 12:19PM

I'm new here so this has been very interesting and very useful. I'm usually good at seeing things from another persons point of view, but its so much better to actually read them! Thanks for all of the interesting comments. So I should start my first message with 'so, how often do you want to chat?'

Just kidding... seriously thanks for all the thoughts shared below.

JB198o - 19 Nov, 2024 - 11:03AM

New user but I’d hope for some daily interactions; just so you know you are in each others thoughts I suppose

Chas007 - 19 Nov, 2024 - 10:06AM

good idea to have regular chat that is responded within 48 hours

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Blue_eyed_gentleman - 19 Nov, 2024 - 09:34AM

As with so many things here - and in life - talking about it is the key. And if one of you prefers lots of contact and the other finds it difficult (either preference or circumstance) come to a compromise or find a way to make it work for you both. But if your IE doesn't realise how you feel, they won't be able to do anything about it

1718606 - 19 Nov, 2024 - 09:03AM

I think everyone is different. I normally tell up front that I reply, when I can and if we're in a good rhythm of exchanges then I also let them know when I'm about to go silent for what ever reason... It's also usually obvious when someone loses interest... Can't be everyone's cup of tea!

Some are more needy than others too ;)

Yourbabygirlie - 08 Nov, 2023 - 09:43PM

I’d say that checking in once a day to chat is reasonable. Sometimes people do get busy and genuinely can’t respond but if they were interested, they’d make the effort to chat you or check in with you on a daily basis.

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Monicas55 - 27 Oct, 2023 - 09:50AM

Daily in my view

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Sandypops - 26 Oct, 2023 - 04:18AM

I need regular chat so much so that I've put that fact in my profile 😂 That's an important factor for me, though I'm also mindful that not everyone can chat a lot. But surely everyone has some point in the day when they can bounce some messages back and forth 🤔 and my biggest frustration is chatting away to someone and suddenly they stop conversing and they've gone to bed! Seriously, just say 'off to bed now' if you're mid chat 🤦🏻‍♀️
If we can't chat a lot, I know I'm going to get bored so there's not much point continuing. Though if I like the man, I will work harder to encourage more conversation. But my best connections have been where the chat has flowed naturally and seamlessly and we've both been on the same wavelength with regard to chatting with no extra effort from either person.

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Paula99 - 24 Oct, 2023 - 04:05PM

POP69

This place is ‘overthink ‘ central 🙈