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Can attraction not just be physical?

I met a wonderful lady recently. We had been chatting for some time, and finally met up. The connection is definitely there. Things have now progressed to the bedroom. Alas physically I am disappointed. Without going into too much detail, it seems that quite a bit of padding support has been used. I really prefer a ‘good handful’. Much as I really like her, my physical desires for what constitutes a woman are not met. I feel I have been lied to, but do not want to hurt her feelings. How do I let her down gently, or do I stay, as she is very keen and I do love her personality?

Thank you for posting this. I genuinely am in a dilemma!

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1488125 - 03 Apr, 2022 - 09:03AM

@Purple Dreams

I want to meet a nice person, but I need to evaluate whom the person is, and without a complete profile what is the point? Yes, some guys are idiots. However I do believe there are men like me! I am passionate, thoughtful and no Neanderthal!


Purple dreamer - 03 Apr, 2022 - 07:31AM

This has to be a first ....Usually it's the other way round men want less to handle

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1510079 - 03 Apr, 2022 - 06:26AM

It’s important to be honest, both sides should be honest. No point in a relationship that isn’t exciting and fulfilling for both sides, just wasting each other’s time…

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1488125 - 02 Apr, 2022 - 08:14PM

@bibi474

How many profiles are so poor? Or incomplete? So scant in detail that you have no idea what you are looking for?

I don’t know how many men’s profiles are like this, but I find few quality profiles.

As for honesty, how many men will misrepresent themselves when you meet them? Same goes for women.

I just don’t understand how people think that they are going find something quite elusive to begin with? And then, you battle to get responses from people. Or it is like trying to get blood from a stone.

People need to be realistic, be willing to take the time to get to know one another.

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ClassyLady77 - 02 Apr, 2022 - 06:50PM

Words fail me. What a selfish thing to say.. She can do much better than you…

I’m sure you had issues she didn’t like… 🤦🏼‍♀️

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1514809 - 01 Apr, 2022 - 11:37PM

Personality all the way!! Also, don’t be a dick this is a human being who deserves respect. We should be supporting each other 👍

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Whoisit? - 01 Apr, 2022 - 06:48PM

He honest and end it. You are wasting her time and yours. Stop being selfish


bibi474 - 01 Apr, 2022 - 05:07PM

Hello to all here,
I am a woman looking to meet up with like-minded men here. I have been a member here for sometime now. I do come here once in a while to read and reply to my messages. I have met a few people face to face in a neutral setting just to see if we connect to take it further. My observation during messaging and /or when I meet in person in a neutral venue/setting to see if we connect is that most don't even know what they want on here. Most seemed to to be confused in what they are looking for. They claim to be something they aren't just to boost their self-confidence before the face to face meeting. In reality they are not who they say they are. I would urge each person who comes here to know exactly what they want, be honest in what they are looking for here, in order not to cause confusion in the future, and waste people's precious time. Thanks

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Goodkitty - 01 Apr, 2022 - 03:55PM

Good grief. I dread to think what you could say about me. But try meeting the guy who says he has the physique of a rugby player but in reality was so obese, he couldn’t walk . Couldn’t remove that padding!!!!!

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1509010 - 01 Apr, 2022 - 02:32PM

Lol what a cute dilemma 🙂
But nobody is perfect I guess it depends on how much you are willing to "sacrifice" aka compromise on but then I guess since it's an affair and not a love relationship, if you are not happy, WALK! Remember you don't have to be cruel in walking. Orrrrr you "get her bigger girls that don't need padding". Plenty of places on Harley Street alone 😉

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